You’ve Got One Job That Really Matters

Don't let it pass you by.

Shannon Ashley
May 28 · 4 min read
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The dictionary defines trauma as either a "deeply distressing or disturbing experience," or "physical injury."

Sometimes, when we hear the word trauma, we think it only refers to the truly horrifying stuff. But trauma is subjective. Two people can go through extremely similar circumstances and have completely different reactions.

We don't always agree upon which experiences are traumatic, but it's my personal belief that everyone experiences some sort of emotional trauma in their lifetime.

Not everyone who experiences trauma will develop PTSD, but all who experience trauma will suffer the consequences if it is not healed. The symptoms of unresolved trauma are many, and you can't just will your trauma away.

We need to talk about love.

“Love is at the root at everything, all learning, all relationships, love or the lack of it.” ― Fred Rogers

At the heart of all trauma is a longing for love. We may have grown up feeling unloved by the family that was supposed to protect us. Or perhaps we experienced abuse that left us feeling unworthy of love.

Feeling unloved and unaccepted for who we are is no small thing. It impacts everything from the choices we make each day to the way we treat others and ourselves.

Trauma is real and it cannot be avoided, but our trauma must be healed if we plan to get anywhere in this world. Otherwise, our open wounds will continue to cause us pain and unnecessary conflict.

Education isn't enough.

“Healing yourself is connected with healing others.”
― Yoko Ono

When I look around the world and see how often we treat each other like shit, I realize that most folks are acting out of that unresolved trauma. Some have a chip on their shoulder and take things too personally. Others make it their mission to bring somebody down.

There is so much bad behavior out there that can't seem to be curtailed through education, simply because education isn't enough. What most people need is to be healed.

Education is vital, but healing is sublime. Healing transcends education.

You have one important job in this world.

“Our lives are not our own. We are bound to others, past and present, and by each crime and every kindness, we birth our future.”
― David Mitchell, Cloud Atlas

A lot of people get hung up on figuring out their purpose. They wonder what they ought to do with their lives, but there is only one job that really matters.

You need to resolve your trauma. And I need to resolve mine.

Resolving trauma might sound like a silly thing, but it's the only thing that can actually save the world.

When we live with unresolved trauma, we are doomed to repeat uhealthy cycles of shame or abuse. We pass them onto our children. Take it out on our family, friends, and even strangers.

We muddle through life and struggle to gain ground on most any long-term goal.

You don't need to look for your purpose in life.

“Your trauma informs your purpose.”
― Mastin Kipp

If you've been through any deep emotional trauma, it's your healing that will guide you on where to go and what to do with your life. Healing from your trauma will give you the strength and purpose you've been looking for all along.

Tough times will always arise. The world needs more people to live their purpose and respond to adversity in a positive way. None of us can consistently do that when we are stuck in our own pain.

It’s said that trauma isn’t just what happened to you, but the way others responded to your trauma. And how much you allow or prohibit yourself from feeling that trauma.

The world is waiting.

“Although our instinct may be to bury the past, minimize, or avoid our pain, feeling the feeling of what happened to us can actually lead to healing.”
― Lisa Firestone Ph.D.

As you deal with your unresolved trauma, you can make this world a better place. You quit snapping at others, quit making choices for the wrong reasons, and start living your own life on your terms. With freedom.

Every online and schoolyard bully, every overbearing parent, and every abusive cycle is rooted in some sort of unhealed trauma.

And even if your trauma does not make you mean, it will hold you back from living your best life when you’re still holding onto that baggage.

We have a universe filling up with anxiety and depression. There is one answer. World peace needs one thing. Healing. The world is waiting.

The world needs you and me to finally heal.

We are all in this together.

In times of stress, the best thing we can do for each other is to listen with our ears and our hearts and to be assured that our questions are just as important as our answers.”
― Fred Rogers

Healing is for everyone. Including the people you don’t like or those who don’t like you. Healing is me. Healing is for you.

Letting go of our trauma to finally heal is the most important job we have to do. There is no relationship or responsibility that exists without our first needing to be healed.

So, don’t let the opportunities pass you by. Your trauma isn’t going anywhere until you recognize and administer whatever healing you need.

The world is waiting…

What are you waiting for?

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Single mama, fulltime writer, exvangelical. It's not about being flawless, it's about being honest. Top Writer.

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