Why Should I Forgive When Holding On Feels Like the Safer Option?

The Struggle Between Self-Preservation and Healing

Judy Hansen
Backyard Church
Published in
7 min readMay 8, 2024

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Photo by Michael Starkie on Unsplash

Forgiveness is a bitch. It breathes down my neck, making me twitch. It keeps me awake. Wrestling with it, I try to make it go away and leave me alone with my angry thoughts. I hate forgiveness. If I give in, if I bow to its demands, I might lose something. Something I…

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Judy Hansen
Backyard Church

Writer, blogger, book author. I push the boundaries of what faith means.