How to surround yourself with good people

We all want success in various areas of our life like business, finances and relationships. However, not many can find fulfillment in these areas. The reason for this is because of their standards.

To be successful in life, you need to raise your standards. Doing so can change your life, business, and relationships. One of the best ways to start this journey is to surround yourself with good people.

There’s a famous saying that says “You are who you surround yourself with”. Of course, we all want to surround ourselves with good people but how can we do that? In this article, we’ll take a look at how to surround yourself with good people.

How to Surround Yourself with Good People

Always remember who you surround yourself with is who you become. Here’s how to surround yourself with good people.

1. Surround Yourself with Greatness

The pursuits that you invest the most time in are a reflection of your standard. If you are trying to grow your business, then surround yourself with people who are already running successful businesses.

The best way to surround yourself with positivity is to decide to raise your standards. Now it can be hard to let some people go but don’t be afraid. Surrounding yourself with successful people will raise the standard of what you will or will not tolerate in your business and life.

2. Let go of negative people and relationships

If you’re a go-getter but your business partners or team lack ambition, then it’s time to let those people go. Letting go of the negative people and relationships will give you more time to surround yourself with positive people.

To do this, think about how you feel after you spend time with certain people. Do you feel :

  • good about yourself and ready to tackle new challenges?
  • upset and unsure of yourself?
  • Like you’re not in control of your emotions?

Anyone that makes you feel drained, fearful, or agitated after spending time together is not good for you. It can be hard to get rid of certain relationships because you’re afraid of burning bridges. Be willing to change your mindset and free yourself.

You are not obligated to anyone even if you knew them for a long time. It is important to remember what you’re about and what you’re hoping to achieve in your business and life.

Here are some other signs of negative people: They:

  • Always worry
  • Tell you what to do
  • See the worst in every situation
  • Keep secrets
  • Are pessimistic
  • Enjoy spreading negativity
  • Oversensitive to criticism
  • Always complain
  • Never leave their comfort zone
  • Put a negative spin on good news

3. Identify Positive People

You may already have some positive people in your life. These types of people don’t all need to be the same. You can benefit from a diverse range of personality types. The four types of positive people you need to surround yourself with are:

Smart People

Keeping smart people around will give you a reason to push yourself. You will want to learn new things and overcome them. These two traits are a must if you want to succeed in business.

People who work hard

Many people are smart but they don’t have the drive to succeed. Surround yourself with like-minded people who aren’t afraid to work hard to achieve whatever they put their minds to. They will inspire you to do more and achieve more.

Visionaries and Dreamers

We agree that the world needs doers but it needs dreamers and visionaries well. The dreamers and visionaries in your group will entertain your wildest ideas. They will encourage you to follow your dreams no matter how ridiculous it seems.

Positive Thinkers

The truth is that no one is happy all the time but they are people who think positively regardless of the situation. They see every obstacle as an opportunity to adapt and overcome. These are the people you need around you when the going gets tough. They will help you to find the silver linings when you can’t.

4. Join a professional group

To accelerate your success, surround yourself with people you can learn from. Finding a mentor to guide you is one of the best things to accelerate your success. Nobody does it alone. Even the biggest names in the business world all had mentors that helped them get to where they are today.

A mentor can be anyone who is already getting the results you’re hoping to get. They will already have a strategy in place and by spending time with them, you may be able to develop one similar to theirs.

You can learn from your mentor how to respond to conflict and how to network and forge relationships with important connections. Additionally, you can observe their patterns and create similar ones to help you succeed.

If a mentor is hard to find, then you can opt to join a mastermind group or another professional group. This can be online or in-person. You can even try using a business coach to overcome the challenges you face. They can even help you identify the positive and negative people in your life.

5. Step Out of your Comfort Zone

To surround yourself with successful people, you may have to step out of your comfort zone. If you want to be successful, you have to go where the successful people are. These types of people are always attending seminars and workshops that teach them new things.

Successful people are not afraid to dive into new activities and push themselves out of their comfort zones. Working with different people from various industries can help you learn the necessary strategies for your business to excel.

How to Identify Good People

It is important to surround yourself with good people. So what makes someone a “good” person to have around? It is important to remember that a good person doesn’t have to be a saint to be classified as a good person.

Good people are those:

  • Who inspires you to be a better person
  • Motivate you to achieve all your goals
  • Empower you to make the necessary changes so you can overcome challenges and succeed
  • Cheer for your success

Why You Should Surround Yourself with Positive People

So why should you surround yourself with good people: Here are a few reasons why?


Nothing is better than having people in your corner cheering you on. Having good people egging you on will make sure you always give your best shot. They will compliment, push and encourage you to always do what you need to succeed. These people will believe in you regardless of what you think about yourself.

Positive Influence

Your close circle should include people who you look up to. These role models can inspire you to get on their level. Their best and most successful traits will start to influence your behavior if you spend time with them. y

If you spend time with people that constantly complain, procrastinate and always make excuses, you’ll eventually do the same. However, surrounding yourself with people who constantly push themselves and have a positive outlook on life will have you doing the same.

Focus on your Best Traits

Good people can help you to identify your best traits. They will complement and boost your confidence by encouraging you to focus on your strengths. Good people can help you cultivate these strengths to help you grow.

If you’re facing a hard time, ask the people in your circle to list three or four strengths they see in you. They may see something in you that you don’t.

Support you during Tough Times

When striving to achieve goals and stepping out of our comfort zones, things can get tough. In these difficult moments, we need people to be there to provide support. Good people will always support you when you think all is lost. They can be the ones to push you to get back on your feet after you fall.

The supportive people in your circle will give you sound advice and help you progress. They may even give you some tough love if they believe it’ll help you move forward.

Applaud your Victories

It is important to applaud your victories yourself. However, having other people there supporting you and celebrating your victories is equally important. Sometimes hearing that someone is proud of you helps boost your confidence and keep you believing in yourself. This can result in you pushing yourself to reach new heights to achieve all your goals and dreams.


People can have a huge impact on your lives. Those that you spend the most time with can ultimately influence our mood and how we see the world. They can even influence your thoughts and the way you look and think about yourself.

This is why it is important to surround yourself with good people. As motivational speaker Jim Rohn said “ “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” So choose wisely!



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Joe Martin

Joe Martin

Dad, Husband, and reformed ski bum. VP of Content and Digital Scorpion, Former CMO of CloudApp and Marketing Lead for Adobe.