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I Was Going to Leave My Husband 10 Years Before I Did
How long did it take you to leave?
I wasn’t thinking about leaving, I was definitely leaving.
“It’s lonely being married to you,” I say. “I dream about meeting someone who will really care about me one day.”
This was a really nice way of saying, “I’m tired of being mistreated.” I never married the man I dated for nearly six years. My college sweetheart was my adult nightmare.
I wish I had run.
I wish I hadn’t allowed him to talk me into staying. Honestly, I didn’t think I would ever feel the same way about him. Technically, this was his second chance. I had left after eight years of marriage. I packed up our toddlers and moved in with my sister.
I’m shaking my head even now.
Why do we stay long after the close?
Why did I go against my better instincts?
I knew I needed to get out of this relationship. It’s why I left the first time. Once we were married, our relationship manifested into an abusive cycle. Things would be great for months and then twice a year all hell would break loose.
I would cry for weeks and not little itty bitty tears.
But a ravenous emotional hurricane that…
