How Do You Stop Emotional Dumping
A Guide to Emotional Dumping
Let’s say you’re in the middle of something and you get a call from a friend. You feel elated after receiving your friend’s call. You picked it up with a smile, but with energy, you picked it up, and the energy they call you just clashed.
Within a given minute, your friend started telling you about their problems, and it just turned into a one-way conversation. You are no longer asking anything.
Why is that?
Have you ever thought of it?
You are just doing the job of a supportive friend, but your friend doesn’t feel the same. They just need someone to dump all the grudges and loads they are carrying in their chests.
What Is Emotional Dumping?
Emotional dumping is the gradual offloading of someone’s emotional turmoil on another person without caring about that person’s mental and emotional capabilities to hold the shared stuff.
Initially, we think being friends and being close have some duties toward them, but when you look at it, you are just there, but you are not there fully.
They use you like a sponge and want you to absorb their offloads like water without leaving a single drop.
How Do You Know If Someone Is Emotionally Dumping?
Start with the energy, the vibe, and the way they greet you. If it’s only for sharing what they are going through, you need to pause and think about what’s really going on!
- Sharing all the turmoil without caring about listeners readiness and ability to take serious topics.
2. Going beyond listener’s comfort zone.
3. Mostly one-sided conversations where the listener is just for the console.
4. Intense topics that make the listener drained, exhausted, and perplexed.
5. Ignoring boundaries and going beyond their baffling issues.
How Do You Stop Emotional Dumping?
Honestly, you can’t.
If you lead a social life, you can’t avoid people and their pursuit of you, but you can definitely find a safer way out of it.
- The first and most important thing is to set boundaries by directly communicating about them.
2. Tell them politely to seek professional help. You are not a trained therapist to hold things up.
3. Don’t give them unsolicited advice if they only want to be heard.
4. Tell them to avoid bottling up their emotions and fizzing them out on anyone; show them the way towards journaling and meditation.
5. Ask permission and understand whether they are sharing it out to seek solace or discord.
Have you ever been in a situation where you feel like you are a punching bag and another person is punching you right in the face with words?
