I Was Running From Myself. Are you doing it too?
Living in a dysfunctional family is never easy.
Living in a dysfunctional family is never easy, especially when you are the only person who notices the dysfunction.
Don’t get me wrong. I genuinely love my family, and they love me too.
But all of them have had their share of family trauma growing up. They got so lost in earning enough money to make ends meet that they never got the chance to deal with their trauma.
The orthodox thinking that was passed down to them keeps them running in a continuous loop of resentment and unresolved conflicts.
Do they smile and laugh with each other? Yes.
Does it last? No
For years, my body was in a fight-or-flight mode. I was jumpy and hyper-vigilant, as I was always scared that two or more family members might start fighting. They shared their pain and disappointments with me regularly.
What they didn’t realise was that it was destroying my nervous system and putting unmanageable stress on my body.
When you’re a child, you don’t blame your family members for the conflict in their relationships. You don’t see their fault for the negativity in the environment. You attribute all of the dysfunction…
