Sex energy is no different from the energy of breathing, energy responsible for , or any kind of energy (or prana in yogic culture) that is necessary for the survival of the body.
Except these energies are stuck in cycles, their flow is cyclic, and for specific kinds of purposes, this is important to create structure, this is survival.
But that’s not the case with the cyclic movement of sex energy.
All of the pranas manifest constantly in a cyclic manner to keep the body alive and without your conscious management, the cycle is productive, not creative. Making the same product over and over again.
Sexual energy moves in a cycle of course as long as it is in the body, but with no purpose or influence, at least up till puberty, it is relatively free, and you’re free to direct it in which way you like, this is what children do, their energy is moving freely and this influences their behavior, all children are intelligence and creative.
When the puberty period begins, the same intelligence that has directed all the pranas in your body is going to work on your sex energy similarly.
Coming up with a new cycle and with new cells in the body (sperms in males), this prana will be directed to be sent outside of the body in males to complete the last step of survival, reproduction, which is having more of the same, or productivity.
I have explained the difference between the creative and productive mindset here :
So you can view ejaculation this way, it’s forcing and focusing some amount of energy to express it physically in a similar cycle but this time the end goal lies outside the body.
I’m talking about males here because of our view of sex as a game that should end with the male orgasm, and this is not only not true but also tasking on the body if every sex experience ends with an ejaculation.
A normal man ejaculates up to 7 thousand times in his life, this frequent discharging of energy medically is considered normal(now), but psychologically it’s a limitation, and in a more observation-based culture, like the Tao, this number is not healthy for the body, and it can reduce one’s life span.
This ok if there was really a purpose for procreation but the problem is that most ejaculations in the history of humanity were purpose-free.
Sex is what should be purpose -free not ejaculation, where you transform energy from one form to another one that you think is more useful, both froms express you differently.
Ejaculation can cause depression from an energy and psychology perspective because what have you lost doesn’t take a new form that expresses your authentic psychological need.
Sperms don’t match a 25-year-old man’s psychology let’s say.
Also from a neuroscience point of view, this is true, a neurologist explains in her book, Cupid’s Poisoned Arrows, how orgasms both in males and females cause a drop in dopamine level which change your perception of life and your partner, and this could continue up to 2 weeks till dopamine return to the baseline when you come back your normal experience.
Why is that?
Because orgasm is a strong stimulation to the brain, it can disturb the balance in your system, this high rise and sudden crash in dopamine shouldn’t be pursued at the same frequency we do now, even in the biological way.
We sometimes mistake accepting our biology with worshipping it.
Social belief could affect the most fundamental aspects of humans like our relationship with sex and it could deprive us from exploring this dimension deeply, like Tantric culture and the Tao did.
I would highly recommend exploring their perspective on sexuality, it’s definitely more advanced than ours, and this is why I dedicated myself to studying and sharing their work.
A great start would be these two books.
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