IDENTITY/DISCOVERY and the ‘A’ in LGBTQIA+
What does it mean to be Demisexual
So… I think I’m demisexual.
In fact, I’m certain I’m demisexual, but I have this weird thing where I feel like I can’t claim a label unless someone else confirms it, and so far the few people I’ve shared this notion with have basically just thought I was weird (which I am, but that’s beside the point). I write about sex, after all. How can I be demi-sexual if I’m writing about sex all the time?
I’ll get to that later — but first — what led me to come to this conclusion in the first place?
Well, first I came across the idea of asexuality, which according to the Asexual Visibility and Education Network (AVEN) can be defined this way:
An asexual person does not experience sexual attraction — they are not drawn to people sexually and do not desire to act upon attraction to others in a sexual way.
When I stumbled upon this notion a couple of years ago, I almost felt like I’d come home. It made perfect sense to me. As a rule, I don’t experience sexual attraction. I pretty much never think about sex outside of when I write about it, and the occasional urge I have with my husband.
