How to Consistently Attract (And Hold Onto) Beautiful People in Life
It’s about physics, not chemistry.
Have you ever come across someone who takes your breath away, who makes you say, “Wow, this person is awesome.”
Maybe they’ve always been a part of your life from the get-go — a caring parent, a supportive sibling or even a childhood friend you’ve never lost touch with.
In almost all cases, something good must have happened for your paths to cross and remain aligned.
You became more attractive.
I’m not saying your good looks suddenly blossomed. I’m saying the aura you bring to the table suddenly became magnetic. Your soul evolved into one that consistently invited the connection of others.
And while it might seem that this wonderful transformation of yours was purely the result of nature or destiny, I’d say your recent efforts — the improvements you’ve made over the last few months — have only just started to shine through.
If you’ve been building powerful relationships with beautiful people throughout your life, here’s what you’ve been doing well. And if you haven’t, well, let’s find a few ways to correct that.
‘For Every Action, There Is an Equal and Opposite Reaction’
To paraphrase Newton’s Third Law, when you take action by treating yourself well, the universe will reward you with people who also treat you well. Or as Sitara Devi once said,
“Treat yourself with love and respect, and you will attract people who show you love and respect.”
By dedicating more time to work on you, you naturally develop into a more well-rounded individual. At some point, your ‘scale of attractiveness’ goes through the roof.
If you’re unsure whether you’ve already reached this stage in life, ask yourself this: “Is this the current version of ‘me’ the one that I want to present to the world?”
If the answer’s “no”, then identify the areas in your life where you’d like to improve.
Use this article as a self-reflection prompt. Maybe you lack patience, or you’re not as generous as you think you should be — practice turning up to meetings early, start giving more, find ways to climb your own scale of attractiveness.
Only then will you begin to attract the sort of high calibre people you want in your life.
And if you’ve already done this…
What if you’re already as attractive as you possibly can be? You’re surrounded by wonderful people that mean a great dear to you — friends, partners, loved ones, and so on. The physics of attraction is working.
Now what?
Now the real battle begins. Now’s the time to show how much we care, and how appreciative we are of having such people in our lives.
Rest assured, Newton’s Third Law comes in handy here, too.
You see, by being unselfish with how much time you give the people that matter most to you — e.g. picking up the phone every once in a while, asking them how they’re really doing in life — you’ve surprisingly already completed 50% of the work.
And yet you’ve achieved 100% of the outcome.
How so? Because you’ve encouraged them to meet you halfway in the relationship.
Remember, for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.
Takeaway #1: Present the best version of ‘you’ to the world. It’s the most effective way towards becoming and staying, spiritually attractive.
Accept Their Imperfections by First Accepting Your Own
“Imperfection is perfection to a beautiful perspective.” — Anonymous
Look, nobody’s perfect. Not you, and definitely not me. But we’ve both known this all along.
And yet we’ve also known how an excessive desire to pursue perfectionism in both ourselves and in others has the potential to drive relationships to the ground.
But we so easily forget this when we stumble across someone who comes close to perfect. We know they’re not 100% perfect — such a thing doesn’t exist. But we brand them as being ‘99.99% perfect’.
What we fail to realise is that that’s how they appear to us at first glance. I mean, that’s partly the reason why you liked them in the first place. You couldn’t see any obvious turn-offs.
And so, later down the line, when something trivial pops up out of the blue — a personality trait that’s taken you by surprise, a habit that feels odd (by your standards’ at least), or a belief that you can’t relate to — it all of a sudden blows out of proportion.
Why? Because you didn’t embrace the fact that they too are imperfect.
Once you eject the idea of perfectionism from your own system, two things begin to happen.
First, you’ll draw the type of people who are openly appreciative of your own imperfections — they like you just the way you are.
And second, you’ll begin to notice the inherent beauty in the imperfections of others. And that’s a much healthier place to be in any relationship.
Takeaway #2: Let go of the idea of perfection. It’s doing more harm than good in your relationships.
Respect Each Other’s Boundaries by Embracing Your Own
“You best teach others about healthy boundaries by enforcing yours on them.” — Bryant McGill
In every relationship, romantic or not, boundaries are crucial in determining the probability of success.
By having suitable boundaries in place, we not only allow ourselves to reconnect with our own soul, but we also understand what it means to respect the lines being drawn by others.
“Lack of boundaries invites lack of respect” — Anonymous
I mean, think about someone who comes across as ‘too clingy’. Notice how they struggle with the very notion that everybody, even the most outgoing amongst us, needs some space from time to time.
If you really wish to hold onto amazing people in your life, start by respecting their desire to occasionally fly solo. And do so by regularly practicing the art of flying solo yourself.
Takeaway #3: Learn to respect the boundaries of others by embracing your own.
A Quick Recap
You’re in a great place in life when you’re permanently surrounded by those who you love and respect. But never forget how it took a great deal of time and effort to get to this state. And it will take as much time and effort, if not more, to stay there.
As a reminder, here are the 3 principles to keep in mind if you wish to climb to (and stay at) the top of the ‘Relationship Mountain’.
- Present the best version of you to the world. It’s the most effective method towards becoming and remaining spiritually attractive.
- Let go of your imperfections. Not everyone you meet will always be Mr/Mrs Perfect (even if they first appear as such).
- Learn to respect the boundaries of others by embracing your own. It’s what makes good relationships great.
Thank you for reading!
