How to Include a Child Who is Difficult to Include

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How do you include a child who is difficult to include?

This is not an easy answer. The specifics vary from child-to-child. There is something common to everyone, however, friendship. Everyone needs friendship.

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It’s not about getting, but giving. In these simple things:

  • Give someone a greeting. Say, “hello!”
  • Give someone a gentle pat on the shoulder or hand.
  • Give someone a piece of yourself. Yes, you have permission to talk about you! Tell them something you want them to know or notice. Many people with disabilities are excellent listeners.
  • Give your presence. Regularly try to interact with those who are different than you. The ongoing habit of your presence in certain settings will mean a lot to them.
  • Ask questions. Asking questions promotes interaction.

But if we can all remember one simple thing — friendship.

Nathan will always be doing life in his own way, at his own pace. Although it will be clumsy and slower, I hope it is never in complete isolation from his peers.

Dedicated to sharing hope and encouragement with fellow special needs parents. Go to her blog, kathymcclelland.com and grab a free copy of All Things Beautiful.

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