STOP! It’s the Right Time to Pause and Breathe
Years go by and become months, days, hours, minutes, and finally seconds in which we continue to give life a truce. We try again and again until it finally works because we firmly believe that after so many obstacles we’ll achieve what we wish for.
Perhaps while reading, a person, situation, or feeling comes to your mind and the truth no matter what could it be, believe me, this article is the one for knowing when is that time and if not, find out.
We consider what is best for us is something that we’ll make us fully happy, obsess to a point where it causes us insomnia or takes away our appetite to compensate it, we imagine a fairy tale like Alice in Wonderland.
But this is where the STOP sign must make an appearance. Something or someone should be the provider of that happiness? Even emphasizing that you lower your energy or your happiness for something that won’t help you at all.
You repeat yourself daily phrases like “It doesn’t matter, it’s something simple” “Keep going” “It’s not that bad”; but even worse, you start to do things that you NEVER thought you would to please someone or because “the supposed situation deserves it”, but say NO.
However, that little voice in our heads speaks to us trying to convince us by saying “Maybe if you do it you’ll achieve it, it’ll finally happen”; In short, you go and do it. What happens? There are two aspects:
How to overcome it?
Clinging to what hurts us is terrible and the worst thing is that we continue to allow it without realizing the reality of the situation. However, the limit point exists.
It’s when you have already experienced that need to have done everything and not a single change occurs. It can happen to you in any microsecond of life; in the shower, listening to a song, while shopping, walking, exercising, in a dream, etc.
The point is that it comes to you as a miracle itself and it worries you, it distresses you, you feel like crying, screaming, and hitting things, you tell yourself “I wasted my time” and this is where you should do the following:
Step 1: Feel
Yes, feel the emotions of the moment whether they are crying or when you fell off your bike; break free.
Step 2: Go back
Stand up, close your eyes and take a deep breath, exhale releasing all that air, feel how your lungs comply with the process that keeps you alive, open and close your hands, move your feet and open your eyes.
Step 3: Look out for help
Write it down or discuss it with someone, don’t buy it, it’s the worst thing you can do. Unburdening yourself in it will ease the weight of the burden.
Everything you did wasn't for nothing, it left you great lessons, and perhaps it hurts but that happiness was to satisfy someone or something and not really for you.
That happiness you want isn't in a person, in a job, studies, or anything that could potentially hurt you. That the moment when you open your eyes, you wake up and feel at peace with yourself because you don’t owe anything to anyone but yourself to continue enjoying life.
The biggest advice I can give you is that laugh heartily, who has already learned to ride a bicycle after a scratch, no one can stop it. Meaning that you won’t forget how to stand up again, and acknowledging you can stop and take a breath when need it.
By M. Daniela Bueno
