The Idea of Happiness Makes Us Unhappy?

Could that idea take us further away from it?

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Oh, happiness. The goal of many, the distant desire of others. Always so close and so far.

I wonder what happiness will be. And also, I ask you: What is happiness? How does it look? How does it feel? Does it stay with you or does it leave?

For me, happiness is momentary, I find it exactly when I am with my friends and nothing worries me, I see them laugh and joke, and everything disappears. Everything is fine. Also, it comes to visit me when someone I love achieves something. When I listen to music in front of the beach. When I eat something delicious. But is that all? Is that the only thing that can bring me happiness?

On the other hand, unfortunately, happiness in my life can be felt for at least 1 minute. Or maybe, I haven’t caught it enough. Could it be that it doesn’t want to be with me?

Is it something instilled?

Sometimes I think that the concept of happiness is instilled in us from a young age and therefore, it is seen differently for each person.

For example, some people were taught that happiness is money and that there is no other way to be if you don’t have it. They work, work, and work, the money comes, but did happiness also?

To others, that happiness is raising a family and having children. So, they look for a partner, they go out for a while, they get married — or maybe not, sometimes I get tired thinking that you have to be married to start a family — and they try to have a baby. If you can have it, did happiness come? Did it stay there?

Also, happiness is finishing a career and having a very cool job. For that reason, you study for approximately 17 years of your life, between the battle if I am studying the right career for me and that will make me happy, and what the fuck am I doing? You end up. Does the title also include a bit of happiness?

I’m sure that’s what makes me happy.

Everything I mentioned above, I think it is a kind of happiness. Neither is more than the other. But I feel that many of us get confused with whether that happiness is for us.

What do I mean by this? No happiness is absolute. It’s subjective. And it comes in different colors and flavors for each person.

But, one detail, whatever your idea is, do not tie it to you. Later I explain why.

However, I will tell you something: I have a friend who for years has wanted to be successful and a millionaire because he thinks that this way he will be happy and that his life will be resolved. He still has not succeeded, and since there are people who did manage to be millionaires and look happy, for that reason, he feels unhappy.

There are times when I can’t comfort him because even if I tell him that he has a great family, the opportunity to study and that he lives in a beautiful and quiet place, I can’t make him feel happy. He tied an idea of ​​happiness to the mind, which makes him unhappy. How strange, isn’t it? But that happens, and I’m sure to many more.

Tie an idea.

Could it be that tying up an idea prevents us from seeing other kinds of happiness? There are times when I have the theory that if it does, it clouds us and does not let us see the ones that come into our lives.

For example, if I just allow myself to accept a kind of happiness in my life, and that is to achieve my personal goals, because that is how I see happiness, what happens when I do not achieve any of those goals? Should I be unhappy? Of course not! I must also see the other blessings that I have and that happens to me daily.

Have you ever wondered why there are people who seem to be happy all the time? It is because they accepted many kinds of happiness in their lives! Why do we limit ourselves to an absolute idea?

The much, the better.

Lately, I’ve been trying to practice gratitude. It has made a big change in my mental chip because when I feel miserable because apparently everything is wrong, I try to see the blessings I have in my life.

I do, and suddenly, I see that I have health, family, loving friends, a roof under which I can live, food, and a bed. I swear to you that magically, the happiness of gratitude comes and embraces me. It stays for a while, we have coffee together and talk about how good things are.

I realized this is how it stays! Is it because I can talk to it about countless things that make me happy?

Final thoughts.

That, my friend, is a piece of advice that I can give you. Don’t bind and limit yourself to just one idea of ​​happiness. It may take time to arrive, as well as staying with you very little. Instead, open the door to more kinds of happiness. They appear daily, believe me, in the smallest things, you just have to see them through the eyes of gratitude.

1. Drinking coffee early in the morning.
2. Hug from your mom.
3. A new season of your favorite series.
4. Eating ice cream of your favorite flavor.
5. Meeting a friend you haven’t seen for a long time.
6. A rainy day.
7. Drinking beer in front of a beach.
8. Laughing until your stomach hurts.
9. Singing your favorite songs drunk.
10. Taking a nap in the afternoon.

I mentioned 10, now your task is to think of more that makes you happy.