The Most Important Thing to Know About Life
Most times, we end up blaming a lot of things for our mistakes and failures while we are the cause of whatever that happens to us. I have come to learn and know that in every mistake we make, there is an atom of our fault in it. Even if we aren’t the person that started it. Understanding that every mistake we make has some atom of our fault in it will help you think less of that mistake, instead, it will make you think of how to correct it or solve the problem.
I have a friend whose body stature was very beautiful if you ask me, but she wasn’t satisfied. So, she decided to go for plastic surgery to enlarge her butt and boos (BBL). After the surgery, she began having complications, after some months of treatment without any good result, she kicked the bucket. Money wasted and gone, my beautiful friend also is gone, pain and sorrow filled all our hearts. On her burial day, I heard one of her friends saying that it was the fault of her boyfriend and what she saw trending on IG (Instagram), she wanted to belong. These words got to me “She wanted to belong”. She wanted her boyfriend to love her more, and not to cheat on her so she decided to enlarge her body, she also wanted to be like her friends and other people she sees on Instagram so she decided to enlarge the parts of her body she wasn’t satisfied with the way her creator made her. Am very sure a large percentage of people reading this will blame the social media and also her boyfriend for her death, although they might have their own blame, she also has an atom of the blame for her own death.
Her boyfriend and social media showed her what they felt, and what they would prefer but she on her own side because of lack of ‘Self Esteem or what I call Self Love’, she went ahead to please them, forgetting about her body.
Self-love and self-esteem are something everyone should have and something I will advice the parents to start teaching their children from infancy, it should be part of parenting lessons. Men, women, boys, girls, young and even old people should have self-love and self-esteem.
So many people blame social media, for the bad influences they make on people, many of us are quick to put all the blames on social media. Forgetting that social media can also be good and bad it’s just left for us to make our own decision of the one to choose. The one we want social media to influence us with ‘the good or the bad’. A lot of things on social media today are fake, even a lot of people posting things on social media too are fake. We shouldn’t allow the things we see deceive us. Try your best to have self-esteem and self-love, create it and hold onto it. Always tell yourself you are beautiful, have a positive mindset about yourself, don’t give listening ears to all that people say about you. Appreciate yourself the way you are, mind the things you use on yourself. And also, the words you speak to your head, always speak good things to your brain. Our unconscious state reads a lot that we are not aware of to our minds, so be mindful of what you say and the advice you accept from people.
So for me, the most thing to know about life is what I call self-love because once you love yourself, you already know how to appreciate yourself, how to choose the advice that people give you, you won’t be easily influenced badly by the actions, words and what you see about people. Learn to love yourself because this is the ultimate.
