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The Trend Of Sharing Fake Positivity
Demystifying Fake Positivity
Disclaimer: I’ll probably use the word “happy” several times. It’s just so that you are clear by the end that “happiness” and “positivity” are two different ball games.
There is not a single human being on this planet who is always positive and happy. But if we are depressed, will casting positivity and having a glowing smile on our face help us overcome the situation?
My personal opinion is “No”.
Now, don’t get me wrong. I am not saying that trying to be positive is not a good thing. What I really mean is that at the same time, we must try to understand the source of our negative feelings and address them.
Forgetting about our problems and focusing only on the positive side of things will lead to further mental complications.
We need a basis for comparison.
We can’t feel happiness or joy without its counterpart. How would you know you are happy when the only thing you can be is happy? Sounds confusing, isn’t it? What I am trying to convey is that the meaning of the word happy wouldn’t exist without a word called “sad or unhappy”.
Similarly, there is no light without darkness.
We need a basis for the comparison. So, there is no point in hiding the truth if we are not happy. Just confess the fact that we can’t be happy all the time and that’s okay.
Experiences come and go, whether positive or negative. If you are embracing the positives and start hiding the negative ones, you are lying to yourself. What good can that bring to you?
Lying to ourselves is itself an act of failure.
If we don’t embrace the negative emotions for the way they are, we will never feel anything close to being fulfilled in life.
Most of us have heard the expression ‘fake it till you make it’. But I would like to ask you one simple question: Is it worth it to take a hit on your mental health just to make it?
We are ultimately working so hard just to be satisfied and peaceful in our later lives, isn’t it? What’s the use of that hard work if we don’t have the mind to enjoy happiness when it comes?
If we are always chasing the next big thing just to avoid the fear of missing out, we can never be happy.
Hiding our suffering is not the right thing to do. Addressing it is.
We can never get out of depression and anxiety by being positive even when we are not. This can be a short term solution. But finding the answers to our problems is what we should look for to have mental peace in the long run.
We can all see false positivity shared on our social platforms by influencers. Now, I can understand why they need to do it. That’s the standard each influencer needs to follow to make it for themselves. They are doing an incredible job to maintain their standards despite how they feel themselves.
It’s not their fault if they have to share fake positivity. We as consumers have to consume those with a grain of salt. Don’t be blinded, that’s all I want to say.
It’s one thing to be positive and another to try and close the doors of darkness inside you in the name of positivity. Those negative feelings, depression, and anxiety will only grow inside if not taken care of.
Always remember, happiness and positivity are not the same. We tend to mix them up in our thoughts.
And our ultimate goal is to be happy. Isn’t it?
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