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Have we become too sensitive?

I remember watching an episode of The Power puff girls, as a child, where Blossom, Bubbles, and Buttercup broke into the lair of Mojo Jojo, and in it lay a septic tank with poisonous green gas oozing out. Written on the tank’s body was the warning in black — Toxic, Followed by a big ‘X’ sign and a skull head for more emphasis. Those were good times — innocent times.

Toxic used to be a word that people associated with dangerous substances like wastes and gas fumes, but these days it has taken on a whole new meaning.

Owing to…

It is more complex than a scenario with malicious people and vulnerable victims.

An interpersonal relationship is difficult to manage; people just have different value judgments and ways of getting along with others. Even in the adult world, it is arbitrary to dictate whether a behavior is right or wrong. That’s why it gets trickier when it comes to education.

As a child, I know the bully is bad and we shouldn’t do it. But adults seldom told me what exactly constitutes bully, how it happens, and how traumatized it is for victims. It leads to confusion and sometimes self-justification when I did something wrong.

Let me first present you one of the…

As humans we have evolved to follow the tribe, and rejection hurts

It has taken me my life whole so far to be comfortable with the fact that I’m quite a sensitive person. As someone who always has a lot of questions, being afraid of putting myself out there because of what others might think stopped me from opening my mouth most of the time.

We Don’t Like Looking Silly but It’s Our Mistakes Which Make Us Human

I lacked confidence in what I had to say because I didn’t want to look silly if I was wrong. I used to think my feelings were a weakness and I would go to great lengths to keep them under wraps. I could have been very upset…

And neither deep understanding nor replacing math with tax education will change a thing

There are generally two arguments:
1) “Students memorize and have lack of understanding,” and
2) “School subjects don’t reflect what’s ‘truly important in life.’”

In search of what is behind school subjects inapplicability, the former tend to be proposed by teachers; the latter by students.

Here’s why both break down:

Memorizing vs. Understanding

We might pass school biology tests by “purely memorizing” each cardiac cycle without having to understand why/how the human heart is working like that.

But our brains cannot really memorize that much without connection: we end up associating them with something else we already know, effectively creating the artificial “why”…

A gentle reminder to black women to wear their faces proudly.

“Some people say we got a lot of malice
Some say it’s a lotta nerve
But I say we won’t quit movin’
Until we get what we deserve …
Say it loud — I’m black and I’m proud!”

James Brown lyrics from “Say It Loud — I’m Black and I’m Proud,”

This article is for black women — who are thinking about changing their features to “fit in” white institutions. I’m hoping I can convince you to believe in your natural beauty. I’m hoping I can change my best friend’s mindset. …

Why turning a blind eye really gets us nowhere

Something scary happened too close to home last Friday night. Not as scary as for one of the people involved but scary enough for me to instinctively know — somebody was in trouble.

I heard a fight between a man and woman and it went from general arguing to full-blown shouting. Fast forward twenty minutes and suddenly there were banging sounds after real aggression in the male’s voice, followed by fearful shouting and crying from the female.

While I don’t want to go into full details of the whole night’s events, I find it necessary to share just how important…

Have we become tolerant of the mediocrity of doing business today?

“I drove over here because I have been on hold for 23 minutes and you are actually just 18 minutes away so I thought I’d come over and see who I was actually waiting on hold for.”

This was an actual conversation my husband had with a person in a big box store after he had placed a call asking about a particular product.

He was put on hold when he finally did reach someone in customer service but that wasn’t before being transferred twice by the automated phone system only to be hung up on…twice!

He actually was still…

Perspective Change

If money is what on your priority list, it’s time to re-evaluate.

“What you do today is important, because you are exchanging a day of your life for it.” ~Unknown

How many times are you frustrated by someone who takes away your time from you by either entering a meeting late or finishing it late, calling up at awkward hours, or by not fulfilling a promise or valuing your time?

And, how many times have you blamed them for this?


Blame YOURSELF instead.

When I completed my first full marathon, people asked me — “How do you get so much time to prepare?”

When I recently finished my first solo Ultra…

The ways symbolism and narrative truth changed my way of thinking

Nowadays, it’s quite common for people to condemn religious practices, as they consider them weapons of mass brainwash and corruption. For instance, Christianity has been accused of bloodshed, wars, witch hunting, unfair inquisitions, and obstruction of scientific truth. History is an undeniable martyr of these events and we would be voluntarily blinding our senses if we turned our gaze away from reality.

But are these everything that Christianity ever offered? I would say that it depends on our perspective, willingness, and open-mindedness.

As far as I can remember, as a child, I was a loyal follower of the Sunday Service…

I’m so JEALOUS of those who believe in something.

Photo by <a href=”">Serge Fis</a> from Upwork
Photo by <a href=”">Serge Fis</a> from Upwork

I’m so jealous of those who believe in God. So very, very jealous. I know I’m breaking a commandment by being jealous — which I guess doesn’t really matter since I don’t believe in the ten commandments — but I am jealous of those who do.

I want to be like them. I want to be able to snore peacefully at night, cozily ensconced in the security of a benevolent God that is looking out for my well-being. How nice to be able to pray fervently when my plane hits turbulence and I’m bouncing up and down trying not to…

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