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In the laws of nature, change is inevitable. But what kind of change would you choose?

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“Nothing is constant except change.” — Heraclitus

About 2 months ago, I bought some newly planted roses. This was an unexpected move because I disliked roses.

But this pandemic has intensified my connection to the outdoors as I became more attached to nature. Unsurprisingly, I’ve also been doing many unexpected and unplanned things on a whim (not that I’m proud of it).

They resulted in me buying the roses.

Long story short, I took care of the roses as how a normal person would. …

You have to earn that confidence.

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When I was a teenager, I always found it hard to maintain a decent level of self-esteem. There were days when I felt amazing about myself because in those days people approved of me, and there were days when I felt horrible about myself because people disapproved of me.

How I felt about myself was like the weather, always changing and unpredictable. I woke up every morning not knowing how I’m going to feel that day because it was something out of my control. It was in the control of others.

What fascinated me back then is how some people…

Navigating hard things on vacation.

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We were visiting the Big Island of Hawaii for the first time, in the middle of our week vacation, and I was angry at my son for having feelings.

More specifically, that he was having very particular feelings I didn’t like while we sat in a restaurant beside the beautiful Magic Sands beach in Kona, Hawaii. Below us, turquoise waves crashed against the lava rocks. Beachgoers braved the shore break. My son was pissed.

He was frustrated at the boundaries I was setting about lunch together; angry I had said no, he couldn’t body surf while we waited for the…

The term spirituality has always been used in secular ways, and I’m here to claim it back!

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The term spirituality has always been one that is vague, broad, and occasionally brings to mind visuals of freaks, like some skinny, fruity-smelling vegan with wild hair who meditates all day and has a nose ring.

But I believe the term has been hijacked, and I’m here to claim it back! That’s right, step aside you crazy yippy-hippies, and let the real spiritualists cut through. Yes, I know that the concept of spirituality means many things to many people, and one’s personal spirituality can be very different from that of someone else. I get it.

Regardless, I’m tired of people…

2 exercises from ancient philosophy to make sure you keep enjoying life.

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Being truly satisfied is a lot harder than it seems.

You can work hard on goals only to feel disappointed by their achievement. Or wait eagerly for a holiday to discover the anticipation was the main event.

We get glimpses of satisfaction in what we do, but it’s often tainted by an unwelcome whisper:

Is this it?

You’re not ungrateful and you’re not destined to be unhappy. The reality is that natural selection designed your mind to survive, not be content — and this makes for a complicated dance between getting what you want and enjoying it.

Bad Times Come From Bad Predictions

I quit my…

The prize, not the price, matters

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Brands never bothered me. I don’t judge a product by how expensive it is. For me, what matters is quality, durability, and track record. If I will spend anyway, might as well go for a good deal.

I don’t want to pay for something more than it’s worth. Especially when a company capitalizes on brand luxury rather than the product itself. Most people believe price translates to quality. They think expensive items are superior to their inexpensive counterparts. But this isn’t always true. What if it’s just in the mind?

Whether you splurge regularly or not, here are some reasons…

Life is short, but you can still fit in a lot of “real” years.

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Recently an office colleague left my team. It's always sad to see a hard-working team member leave.

Despite the Covid enforced WFH, I was fortunate to catch up with him on the office premises. On someone’s last day in the office, it makes much more sense to speak in person than over a phone call.

After the usual greetings, the conversation moved on from his career choices to the next few years of challenges to his long-term goals.

I was the more experienced one (I think so!) and therefore took the liberty to give him my “take” (just another way…

The world already mutes us; we don’t need to do it ourselves

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I was in my weekly team meeting when someone asked a question and was met with silence. I was in the process of trying to track down my Zoom window to unmute when my colleague calls out —

Why are you guys all muted? Just unmute yourselves! Such a hassle to unmute!

And then I got thinking. How have our interactions in online meetings changed through muting ourselves? And what do we gain as well as lose when we mute ourselves?

Muting as a best practice

In the early days of transitioning online, I remember attending a workshop where they kept hammering in the best…

The tabla drum taught me exactly what it feels like

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“How do you know you’re in love?” My best friend at the time asked her Mom. Her mom replied, “You’ll know it when it happens.”

I fell in love in Nepal. It happened out of the blue, and I thank my good friend Tara for the introduction. You see, my friend Tara is a woman of all trades. Calm, cool, with a goofy sense of humor and a soul kind to the core. She puts her mind to it, she can do it. I visited her home in Kathmandu in 2008. Tara was the production manager of an all-male band…

Why most advice is usually bullshit

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“You should….”

Those two little words at best make my eyes glaze over, and at worst make me want to drown somebody in a toilet. But it’s not because I’m a know-it-all who believes she never needs help.

“What do you think I should…?”

This phrase to me has become no better. I feel a twinge of discomfort in most cases when I’m asked for anything that even remotely resembles advice. But it’s not because I don’t want to help people who need it.

In both cases, it boils down to an observation that has been years in the making…

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