You Will Never Have All The Answers, You’re Not Supposed To

There’s magic in the not knowing and discovery of what’s yet to come

The concept of having all the answers implies that you’ve done, achieved, experienced, been and seen everything.

Which, as a concept, is near impossible.

There’s not one person walking this planet who’s done that, and therefore: no-one has all the answers. They can’t. And neither can you.

You’re not supposed to have all the answers.

There’s no need for you to have all the answers. You can’t have all the answers. Because there will simply always be more questions, more desires, more interests, and more answers.

Deriving from being graded by our education — by the answers we’re able to either learn, or short-term store in our memories for exams, having answers is what we’re told is right. To some extent, it is. Having answers, education, viewpoints and opinions is the makeup of human beings.

But, less actualised and what’s less spoken about is the magic of not having all the answers. Of having clear headspace, of not knowing, of not desiring to know it all.

Simply because we don’t have to know, be, do, have it all. Being whole in yourself during this process of desire to seek answers is the best possible thing you can do while navigating forwards to them.

Our brains are magical things, and, not just as children, can absorb knowledge as sponges. There’s an infinite number of things it can process, store and reiterate at any one time. Those aforementioned answers.

Yet the pressure to have all the answers is ever-present. From ourselves, externally, and societally. There’s no end point to education, to exploration. There’s simply just time, and we do with it as we will.

Some will forever seek answers and take no steps towards the path to seek them. Others will spend their life chasing them. There’s no telling who will find them, or when. They will be uncovered when you are ready for them.

We’re told that to succeed at our jobs; we must have a degree, a set of qualifications, a certain percentage on an exam. We’re told that to be a well-rounded partner; we must have prior relationship experience and have learnt deeply from it, both the good and the bad. We’re told that to be a therapist; we must have vast exposure to techniques, experiences and past patients, yet often it’s not the case.

It’s almost been forgotten that people who are supposed to have all the answers, don’t.

Because someone has been in a 10-year relationship, it doesn’t mean they’re an expert on relationships. Because someone has travelled the world, it doesn’t mean they know everything there is to know about travel. Because someone has climbed to the top of the career ladder, it doesn’t mean they know everything about their industry.

Because someone has been living in their own body forever doesn’t mean they know themselves — quite often, not even close.

There’s always going to be gaps. Places to expand on, improve, explore, learn, educate. That’s part of the magic.

The pressure to know all the answers, now, is where the magic is removed. It’s taking away the beauty of life that is exploration at your own pace — if, and when, it suits you.

You will learn what you need to learn when you need to learn it.

Instead of aspiring to have all the answers, explore the concept of having some of the answers. View them, process them and understand them. A thorough baseline is the best foundation to anything, seeking answers, for whatever you desire, being no different.

If you’re seeking answers on yourself; start with the small questions, then lead to the big. If you’re seeking answers for your career; take a beginners course, then progress as you feel comfortable. If you’re seeking a new hobby; take tentative baby steps, then go at your own pace.

When you starting an ascent at the foot of a mountain, you don’t expect sign posts taking you on a linear path to the summit. It takes exploration, winding, and tenacity throughout the climb. You take it step by step, not quite knowing what will be required of you next. Seeking answers is no different.

To seek and expect yourself to understand everything, now, is ignoring the pace that life, and you, will be naturally guided. There’s no shortcut to the end of our lives, the end of our knowledge base, the end of our self exploration. It’s a process.

Navigating naturally through your life’s course will reveal everything that you need to know to you, and the rest, you will seek out by yourself.

You’re whole within your power to make your own answers to most of the questions circulating in your head and take tentative steps each day towards making them a reality.

Exploration, growth as a human and taking tentative steps will always lead you to where you think the answers will be. Life will uncover the answers if and when you desire them, simply by following it’s path.

Trust in the process, it’s a process for a reason.

Re-humanising self discovery, relationships + living a life that’s authentic to you. INFJ / HSP. Subscribe to my newsletter:

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