Sometimes, you have to let yourself break away from that which has kept you safe, but kept you alone.
Sometimes, you have to let yourself break away from that which was made for a past version of you, but not the current.
Sometimes you have to let yourself break away from that which has clipped your wings, so that you can finally soar.
It takes a brave and courageous heart to break. One that’s willing to be vulnerable during the uncertainty. One that’s willing to struggle for that which matters deeply, instead of being comfortable in that which doesn’t.
Familiarity, easy and comfort are the greatest causes of remaining stagnant in situations, circumstances, relationships, that are meeting the mere base of our wants and desires.
Because in satisfying the most basic of our needs, it’s easy to settle; in the comfort, the safe, the security.
It’s easy to think because the foundational boxes are ticked, the deep desires must go unmatched. That, by still desiring them; you’re asking for too much, you’re not expressing gratitude, you’re unappreciative of having your basic needs met.
But in this life, don’t you want to experience more than baseline?
Don’t you want to…
In a world where we live in the now, in the temporary, with little to no commitment knowing just how quick we can move onto the next, please know, your version of love, and your desire to love, doesn’t have to follow this narrative.
You do not need to fall into a fragment of time, of being the latest interest, of making do “for now”, of gratifying someone else's temporary needs, of filling their own void, of validating their own warped yet sadly normalised version of modern love.
Because in a society that does truly love with one foot out…
Firstly, please know that wherever you are at in your life, you’re supposed to be there.
You’re supposed to be where you are, right now. Even though it most likely doesn’t feel like it. Particularly, if it doesn’t feel like it.
Because if it’s causing you pain, or discomfort, or unsettling, please know that you’re not alone going through this. And please know, if to offer some relief, that it’s temporary. This moment, this right here is one of the pivotal points in designing your future. …
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Growing up, you were probably told to be less of something. To quieten, suppress, fix, hide away some part of your personality, your psyche, your internal makeup, for fear of it not conforming with traditional societal norms.
“You’re too loud”, “you’re too quiet”, “you’re too chatty”, “you’re too fidgety”, “you’re too lazy”.
We’ve all heard one, or multiple, similar notions during childhood.
Really, you were likely never “too” anything. You were just being you, which is always more than enough. Please, remember that.
The person that was telling you to be less, likely didn’t do so because they actually wanted…
Any writing advice you stumble across will always give you one definitive statement: “find your voice”.
Probably followed by recommended articles similar to: “How to find your voice”.
Navigating through you’ll likely felt confused. How can you take advice on how to find your own voice? Something which is fundamentally and unequivocally unique to you.
A how-to list of steps simply cannot give you the magical answer you’re deeply searching for. Not for something so indisputable as your own voice.
Advice will likely tell you how to manipulate your voice to fulfil certain needs. Dominance, persuasiveness, assertiveness. …
The concept of having all the answers implies that you’ve done, achieved, experienced, been and seen everything.
Which, as a concept, is near impossible.
There’s not one person walking this planet who’s done that, and therefore: no-one has all the answers. They can’t. And neither can you.
You’re not supposed to have all the answers.
There’s no need for you to have all the answers. You can’t have all the answers. Because there will simply always be more questions, more desires, more interests, and more answers.
Deriving from being graded by our education — by the answers we’re able to…
Career paths, as a concept, are overrated.
A “path” implies you start, progress, and to some extent, end. It suggests there’s some kind of expected route for you to follow, and by climbing it, you’re at liberty of achieving something.
I’m here to say: you’re allowed to make your own path, and if it’s messy along the way, even better.
My own path is far from linear. It’s messy, undecided, classically Libra, and above all: human.
For reference, I’m from the UK and this is my path: (why I’m telling you all this will make sense later on)
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