Without Intimacy Your Partner Will Look Elsewhere
But it’s impossible to untell the lies
“Michael” was desperate when he wrote me this:
I’ve been married for over thirty years, and I have two sons and a daughter. A couple of years ago, I had an affair with a man. Will my wife ever get over it?
My wife and I have hardly had sex in the last ten years, and when we have, she always says something like, ‘Ok. But let’s hurry up and get it over with.’ It makes me feel like she thinks I’m raping her. I’ve always wanted more sex than she does.
Two years ago, I started going to the gym. I met a man there that I started confiding in. I’ve never had close friends to talk to like that. One night when my wife was out, David and I went to his place after working out. We talked about many personal things, and the next thing I knew, we were having sex.
It felt so good to feel wanted. David wanted me as much as I wanted him. I had had two same-sex experiences before I was married, but it was only for sexual pleasure. With David, it was so much more than that. It reignited all the same-sex attractions that lay dormant for many years. David erased all of the shame and guilt I felt about those past experiences.
