How To Effortlessly Get Any Mentor Of Your Choice — 10 Incredible Tips
Getting a mentor can be a difficult task and fascinating.
I am saying this from personal experience.
Getting a mentor can be as frustrating as trying to get a managerial job in a multinational with a third class grade from the University... Lol
I know you will say “mission impossible!” 😂
But I am telling you that it’s possible because I have grown from that stage, where you send someone a long message on social media or email to mentor you and they don’t even give a reply, to the stage where I get mail or inbox from notable people asking to mentor me.
Unbelievable right.
Let me share the secret of how I did it.
I will share 10 tips to get any mentor you want. So get your pen and paper to put them down.
- Go straight To The Point — Please I am begging you don’t do this mistake of saying Hi to your potential mentor and be expecting him to say Hello. Let me rant like Lasisi Elenu a little — is he your mate? Are you mad?
Lol... Just kidding but seriously you don’t do that. This guys are busy and don’t have time for cheap chat. So, go straight to the point.
I advice you take you time to type what you want to say in one message and send. I bet you will get a better result from this simple act than when you say Hi and expect them to start chatting with you.
I am not saying that it’s not possible, but you need to get to that level of relationship with them. As for this seeking stage, you need to go straight to the point and precise.
No time to waste time.
2. Value For Value — It’s a all about value for value. Nobody want to be in a relationship that don’t benefit them. So you need to audit yourself first and ask you self this question. What value can I bring to this person?
If you can’t answer this question then there is a problem.
Don’t be A Parasite — How do you know parasitic Mentees? They want to call you 24/7 for just no reason, they are just looking for every opportunity to take from you.
Don’t be like that! No one wants a parasite around them and do your best not to be one. Always make sure that you are not overdoing anything. It’s not everything you take to your mentor to help you with. You should learn to put in some work yourself.
I made this mistake while starting out. I want to eat, I run to my mentor to ask ‘how to eat?’, I want to sleep, I run to my mentor to ask ‘how best to sleep?’ If it’s not really - really important, then don’t disturb him.
3. Never Ask For Money — Some people’s definition of Mentorship is creating that relationship that they can ask you for money. I have never asked any of my mentors for money.
4. Don’t Expect Anything In Return — That is where a lot of people fail. They expect so much from their mentor that they get depressed when they get nothing is return.
Don’t do what you do because you want to get something in return for it, but because you want to LEARN & GROW. If this two — Knowledge & Growth — are in the equation then you are good to go.
5. Take It To The Next Level — You have got a mentor, now its time to take it to the next level by solidifying the relationship and building credibility. This can only be done by constant adding of value and building trust.
Many people after getting a mentor they just relax and expect the mentor to do the follow up and pushing.
Let me ask you — Who wants to be mentored? You right?
Then you have to put the work and follow up. Your mentor is not your compliance officer.
6. Show Commitment and Growth — This is what will differentiate you from other mentees of your mentor. You need to keep showing commitment and growth constantly. You need to let him or her know that you are worth the investment both in time and knowledge.
It’s only through this way that you can give your mentor assurance and confidence in you. There is nothing that gives a mentor more joy than seeing his mentee growing from strength to strength.
7. Pay Your Dues — You need to pay your dues forward. what do I mean by paying your dues? Paying your dues doesn't necessarily mean paying his cash for mentorship but looking for creative ways you can pay him for his good work on you.
He won’t tell you, but this simple act helps to grease the relationship just like another relationship.
8. Launch Out — After mentorship what next?
Mentorship might be a life time process depending on your current relationship with your mentor. Even at that, your mentor can’t mentor you for ever.
You need to launch out and start something!
You, not launching out is depriving others the opportunity to be mentored which can be selfish.
9. Mentor Him — Mentor Your Mentor
After you have learnt from him, it is time for you to mentor him. Your mentor don’t know it all. He has at least one or two aspect of his life that he needs help with. It might be teaching him/her how to use new technology, social media, or how to use a tool that is relevant for his/her career.
There must be something you can teach your mentor.
Trust me.
10. Gratitude — Thank You
As simple as it might sound, a lot of people find it difficult to say Thank You, and as little as this act might be it is very vital in building a stronger bond with your mentor.
You can get him a gift as a form of gratitude, it might be as little as getting a book from his favourite author.
I hope you’ll use this tips as fuel for the fire to step up your effort in looking for your desired mentor. After all, the benefits of getting your desired mentor will be well worth the time and effort.
If you have other tips that will help others in getting their desired mentor, please do well to drop a comment below or you have a question on mentorship do well to drop a comment here I will respond to it.
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