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Dealing With the Avoidant Discard in a Relationship

How to thrive after relationship rejection

Jennifer Pitts
Beloved
4 min readApr 22, 2024

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I awoke with the morning sun streaming across my face and feeling better from the day before.

Sometimes, all you need is a bit of rest from an emotional breakdown.

It baffles me that I can still be upset from a breakup that happened over six months ago.

Unfortunately, processing feelings can be complicated, and emotions can creep up unexpectedly, such as when I was sitting in my car the day before at Rona about to pick up a bucket of paint for my son's room.

Most days, I can keep the one I still love mentally distanced from my mind, with him only appearing before bed or first thing in the morning.

The day's distractions give me peace.

But not yesterday when he engulfed my entire being to the point that I couldn't get out of my parked car.

Instead, I cried uncontrollably and only took a breath to stop when people were getting in and out of their cars.

I'm supposed to be at a home improvement store, not self-improvement.

Even though we only dated for seven months, the pain of having a man open my heart only to blindside and discard me is pretty traumatic.

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