Divorce

How Divorce Changes a Woman

I lost not only a person but years of my life

There will always be a before and after in my life.

The one where I created this beautiful family and the place where it broke apart. An untimely divide. A shift where I felt forced to cling to the new while I lost my grip on the old.

My before and after.

I couldn’t look back where pain lived.

Nor could I gaze forward where uncertainty called me.

I hear from people who tell me of their own beginning and end. That they didn’t lose just a person but that divorce devoured an entire chunk of their lives.

People experience endings.

They move, change jobs, and friendships falter, — ordinary change. These can still be unwanted but can also be building blocks. You don’t have to abandon yourself and decades of your life.

You take yourself with you.

But there are more catastrophic events that halt one period in our lives, not in the direction of a shift but a complete redirection.