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Non-Monogamy — London Lesbian Flavour
Intimacy was open-ended, there was no need to define nor limit your physicality in relation to someone else
London is a Gemini city. It swings between identities and has phases that, in turn, stimulate its huge population to excited openness, followed by push-backs and retreat.
When I first went there on holiday (in 1979), London’s aura was excited openness.
In the lesbian circles that I was in, one of the main flavours of that phase was non-monogamy.
Women, and lesbians in particular, were re-writing the rules, challenging heterosexual and patriarchal norms, right across the board.
We were re-writing the rules not in law courts, yet, but in our own daily lives.
The personal was political.
And for those of us exploring the waters of non-monogamy, or polyamory, the personal was political and also a lot of fun!
It was all so compelling that I did not go back to the U.S. with my friends, but fell in love with three different women and stayed.
I was juggling three lovers and more.
Those three lovers were also juggling lovers.
