The Secret Language of Gay Dating: An Insider’s Guide

Unlocking the vault to decode the “unspoken rules” and “coded lingo” of gay dating in a swipe-right world.

Nathan Chen
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Hey there! If you’ve clicked on this article, chances are you’re navigating the exhilarating, yet sometimes confusing, world of gay dating. Maybe you’re a newbie, or perhaps you’re just tired of feeling like you’re playing 4D chess while everyone else is on checkers. Either way, buckle up, hunny, ’cause we’re diving deep.

Decoding the Language: Because Texting “Hey” Isn’t Enough

Let’s start with this: communication is key. Yeah, yeah, I know. You’ve heard it before, right? But let me clarify. I’m not talking about the basic ‘how’s your day?’ stuff. Oh no, we’re diving into the coded language, the subtle hints, and the acronyms that make the LGBTQ+ dating scene what it is. Like, what does it mean if a guy texts you “Masc4Masc” or “DDF”? If you don’t know, well, you’re already trailing behind, my friend.

Masc4Masc literally means masculine seeking masculine. Essentially, these are dudes who are keen on guys who, well, act like what society perceives as “traditionally male.” But let’s keep it 100: sometimes it’s a toxic cover for some deeply rooted issues. And then…

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Nathan Chen
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I'm Nathan Chen, a queer Asian writer advocating for LGBTQ+ issues, Asian representation, work life & mental health. Let's explore life's complexities together!