RELATIONSHIPS
What I’d Say to My Future Partner, if I Knew Who He Was
Sending my undeliverable love letter
I am not a hopeless romantic. I don’t subscribe to the notions of fate or destiny; I believe in preparedness and recognizing opportunity. So when it comes to partnership, I don’t believe there’s one person out there, designed just for me.
That said, I am still very much “a romantic.” I’m just a realistic one.
I believe in varying levels of compatibility across multiple realms — intellectual, emotional, physical; values, aspirations, lifestyle, etc. There’s definitely an elusive sweet spot in the romantic Venn diagram, but anyone with a considerable degree of overlap is a good match.
Finding someone with whom most, or all, the components overlap, though? That’s what I’d call a great match.
It seems akin to finding a needle in a haystack—but that’s part of what makes it so special. I’m fortunate in having found it before. I will find it again someday.
My certainty of this relationship should not be conflated with credulity. It’s an eventuality. As long as I keep dating, I’ll find someone I’m both attracted to and deeply compatible with—and who feels the same way about me. Someday, we’ll mutually agree that we don’t…
