You Can Fall In Love, But Not Into Intimacy
It comes from fitting the broken pieces together
You may have heard that good relationships are a good fit.
I remember first hearing the concept from a post-Ph.D psychologist (a former college friend) when I told her about the demise of my 22 year marriage. She sympathized, then wisely told me relationships aren’t like going to the grocery store and picking the perfect item off the shelf, they have to be a good fit, comfortable for each partner.
The mental image was suitable and thankfully, soon thereafter, I reconnected with the best fit of my life, and for the past twelve years we’ve been constant companions. We built our relationship on mutual respect, but there’s a lot more to it than that. We take care of each other’s broken pieces, sometimes filling in missing portions, other times strengthening and protecting the ruins.
What makes a good fit?
A good fit is indispensable to a good relationship, but I want to explore what makes a fit good.
A good fit happens when the broken pieces of each life fit together, not the whole ones.
That’s something not everyone sees. Think of Tom Cruise and Kelly Preston in Jerry Maguire. Those two were too perfect. Sure, the sex was hot…
