Anal is so Vogue

Dr. Evan Goldstein
Aug 8, 2017 · 4 min read

I am so anal. No, I’m not OCD. What I mean is — my entire world deals with the ins and outs (pun intended) of anal intercourse and all the positive and negative ramifications that are associated with it. I see humans of all genders, sexual orientations, races, and occupations because at the end of the day, we all engage in varying forms of anal intercourse. We may not talk about it, but we’re all enjoying it. And why shouldn’t we? It’s a hole and it feels fucking amazing. Yet the world as we know it begs to differ.

Popular press and the media at large are taking on sex and its taboos and not asking for permission. For example, Teen Vogue recently ran a fairly controversial “Guide to Anal Sex”. Let me repeat that:

Teen. Vogue. Takes. On. Anal. Sex.

I never saw this coming, but kudos to them for actually putting this story into the world, even if there was no medical or scientific facts cited. The thought process and round table discussions on this press story prior to publication must have been unbelievable, and I am sure they got what they intended — press on their press. Yet when one takes a step back on the actual “anal” story and looks at how the medical and educational system has completely failed our children — I think that’s the real story. What does it say about our society that our youth have to go to Teen Vogue in order to learn about such an important topic, right after they read about how much Dove Cameron’s look has changed since her Disney channel days?

If we take another step back, our children think the more followers you have on social media, the more authority someone deserves. That is fact. And every day when the media takes on education, specifically sexual education, how do we determine its merit? It’s no different than the current political climate we are in, where fact checking suddenly doesn’t matter. If it’s written or spoken, or seen on YouTube, it is taken as gospel — it simply must be true. Clearly, that’s outrageous. And now that I have children of my own, this story hits too close to home.

So I think to myself: whose responsibility is it to educate our youth?

With children and teens having easy access to everything under the sun, they probably have been exposed to more than we give them credit for. We cannot ignore the fact that there are kids who are engaging sexually. What they need is a non-biased, non-judgmental educational platform where they can learn about sex with a scientific basis that focuses on proper techniques, while minimizing any negative ramifications. And, oh yeah, with sound references from doctors, medical professionals, and sex experts. People are becoming more and more comfortable talking about sex and exploring what was once considered taboo. There are so many professionals that have made it their mission in life to educate all generations on so many important issues, regardless of orientation, yet where are they now?

I would like to call on publishers to seek out experts in the field for clinically proven, medically sound advice that is backed up by research and statistics. Much like publishers who covered 13 Reasons Why included suicide prevention information, publishers who discuss sex should be providing their readers with an easy way to seek out educators and medical professionals for additional information. This is key. It is through education and prevention that people become informed about the risks involved in anything. We simply cannot pretend something doesn’t exist in order to avoid having uncomfortable conversations. This is both naive and dangerous to everyone, especially the next generation. While I do believe our school systems should teach their students about safe sex practices — whether orally, vaginally, or anally — at the very least, they must make it easy for students to seek out the information they wish to learn about.

At Bespoke Surgical, we are paving the way by creating engaging content through our social media channels that is both accurate and relatable. Combined with editorial pieces for publishers who are already addressing these issues head on, our goal is to establish ourselves as an authority in the space.

Bespoke Surgical

An elite practice purpose-built for today’s male and focused on sexual wellness. Founded by Dr. Evan Goldstein.

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Bespoke Surgical

An elite practice purpose-built for today’s male and focused on sexual wellness. Founded by Dr. Evan Goldstein.

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