2 Ways to Change Your Self-Belief
And become a high-value person
I regularly overestimate a girl’s interest level towards me. Just the slightest gesture or a simple smile makes me think, “she wants me.” Then I come to find out how wrong I was — the hard way. One time, someone told me to do my own thing while she does hers. It usually has to arrive at these blunt moments for me to realize that she was never thinking about me at all.
I created this illusional belief about my attractiveness. I assumed all the clear signs of disinterest to be playing-hard-to-get or shyness.
How does that tie into self-confidence, or more specifically, self-esteem? Well, 99% of us seek social cues to determine our value. Our self-perception primarily depends on our looks, wealth, competence, and charisma — external validation. We constantly crave for evidence to prove our worthiness. Even when we receive it, doubt still hides somewhere.
This got me thinking. Why did I believe I was a prince charming for women when I wasn’t? It’s because that’s what I want. Perception is reality. We believe whatever we want to become true. To become a high-value person, we first have to have the desire to be one. An intense desire. Once we’re burning with the desire to drive a Porsche to impress our friends or chase a woman or whatever it may be, we slowly take…
