Feeling Stuck Facing a Bad Situation? Follow These 5 Steps To Get the Most of It
Whether you like it or not, unpleasant unexpected events constantly occur in life. It could be losing your job in the middle of a pandemic, or spending a whole weekend at your hated in-laws’ house. All without an Internet connection, because they live in the countryside.
Faced with these difficult situations, we all feel trapped.
Nevertheless, it is necessary to learn how to face them as best as possible in order not to let yourself be overwhelmed by the events. To do this, I propose a 5 step plan that will help you not to be afraid of these unexpected situations.
1. Take a step back to see the big picture
When an unpleasant unexpected event occurs, we all tend to feel overwhelmed. The first reflex is to think that we will never be able to cope with it.
That’s when you have to do your best to step back.
Personally, I always remember this quote from Winston Churchill:
“Success is not final; failure is not fatal. It is the courage to continue that counts.”
This quote always reminds me that nothing in life is eternal. This is true for good things, but also bad things. With this in mind, you will be able to look at the horizon in the distance. Taking a long-term view of things will help you understand that this unpleasant situation will not last forever.
It’s up to you to hold on to it with that in mind.
2. Focus on the things you can control
Even so, you must be having a bad time. To get through it as well as possible, there is nothing better than to focus on the things you can control. Situations are made worse by a total loss of control or power.
Focus on your abilities. Look at what you can do to get through this difficult time.
You’ll probably find that you have more options than you imagined to make this seemingly impossible situation less difficult than you thought it would be.
3. Lower your expectations
Don’t expect miracles from unpleasant events. They exist and happen. That is how life is made. Don’t expect to always take advantage of these moments. The best thing is to lower your expectations.
Stay open in case you can take advantage of them. But if you don’t, don’t make a mountain out of a molehill.
Do the best you can, and wait for the unpleasant moment to pass. I am thinking here of that famous weekend in the country with your in-laws. Nothing good to come out of it? That’s okay, it will only last two days after all.
From Monday on, you will be able to regain control of your life. Just be patient.
4. Do the bare minimum, and wait for the moment to pass
In the face of difficult circumstances, accept that you will not be able to be at the top level. Having lowered your expectations will make it easier later. You can only be positively surprised.
With this mindset, I have found that often I can even get some positive from things I thought were totally unpleasant. Having reduced my expectations to a minimum allows me to keep an open mind.
5. Look on the bright side
This last step is the logical continuation of all that I have just revealed to you. By reducing your expectations to the bare minimum, you will be able to look for the bright side more easily.
The smallest positive thing can help you get through this unpleasant time.
If your expectations were too high, you would have found it futile. Without these expectations, you can stay in a good frame of mind. It’s all a question of psychological approach in my opinion.
Bad situations happen whether you want them to or not. That’s life. Many times people will tell you that you can get something good out of every situation. That’s often true, but sometimes it’s impossible.
In those bad situations where nothing good can come out, you just have to accept things by lowering your expectations. Do the bare minimum while waiting for the storm to pass. Never forget that after the rain always comes the sun. It is only a matter of time, and therefore of patience on your part.