I Never Watched Porn, Drank Alcohol, or Lived Wildly, so What Did I Do?

Renuka Gavrani
Better Advice
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6 min readSep 1, 2023

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I often get asked this question, ‘Renuka, why don’t you live more? Why don’t you enjoy life and take over the world?’

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Firstly these questions are offensive because;

a) You are no one to stalk someone’s life and then have the audacity to ask them ‘Why are they living the way they do.’

b) I don’t owe anyone an explanation. It’s like you are jumping in my space and distracting me.

Now keep this aside, let me tell you why I get such comments.

Because I never lived like a teenager or someone in her early 20s should live.

I never watched porn in my entire life. Never. Not even when I was in college and all my friends forced me to at least see ‘how it’s done.’

Yes, writing it is quite embarrassing, and funny. But I want to let my feelings out.

I never touched alcohol even when I was made fun of ‘for not drinking.

And I never had a boyfriend even when all my friends had and they used to convince me to have one too.

But why am I telling you this?

No, I don’t want to paint myself as a saint. Because I am not.

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Renuka Gavrani
Better Advice

I talk about slow & Intentional living - taking you closer to a happy life. I am a published author of the book 'The Art of Being Alone': https://a.co/d/531JIFq