Why some people are spontaneous, and others not

Photo by Vincentiu Solomon

About two weeks ago, I was about to officially register our company, but to do that, our teacher has to sign up to the website, giving away some of her personal information…

Three weeks later, she still hadn’t agreed to sign up.

And I understand that she is skeptical to that, she hadn’t researched the site that she would give her information to, but then I thought about several people I know that would have the information filled in within 2 minutes, without hesitation.

So I decided to write about some of the factors that affect whether someone is skeptical to something, or whether someone spends days or weeks thinking about a tiny decision.


Of course you are more spontaneous and careless when the stakes are small, you’ve got nothing to lose.

If you have just started a company, you’ll take less care in the paperwork than if you have a Fortune 500 company.

There stakes vary, but they are usually economical, physical or mental, often several of them.

Take this as an example: Yesterday, I was helping grandma with her iPhone, iPad and computer. I told her that I was setting up Google Photo for her, so that she can have unlimited photo storage in the cloud, but she didn’t want it. She was afraid that someone would hack her account it and edit the photos, so that it can be used against her and the other people she had taken pictures of.

The stakes and chances of it happening are actually quite small, but the media has exaggerated the stakes and chances, which brings me over to my next point…

News and media

The media has a tendency to overestimate the threat of something happening to you, making the viewers more likely to watch the news to get information on possible threats.

Take terrorist attacks as another example, the media makes it seem like the chance of you being killed by a terrorist is high, when in fact it’s about 1 in 20 million. You are more likely to be killed by your own furniture than to die from a terrorist attack.

But in the case of frauds, the media is more correct, there are a lot of frauds out there, and you have to be careful who you give your personal information to, but if it’s a friend or someone you trust, it’s a different matter.

Who’s asking?

If a person that is asking or telling you to do something is someone’s judgement you trust, you are much more likely to do what they are asking you to do.

When the person who’s telling you to do something, is someone that is either someone that is an expert at the topic, or someone you truly know and trust, you are more likely to do what they ask you to.

For example, if you’re on the lookout for a new phone, you will probably buy the one that your tech-savvy friend recommends, not the one that was on the commercial.

Also, the people around us greatly affect our decision, if everyone else is spontaneous and crazy, you often try to be like them.


If someone has had a great experience with certain things, they will hesitate less when it comes to making a decision, but if they have had a bad experience, they will hesitate more.

You wont pay for the gold from the guy who emailed you, if you already been scammed.

Sometimes you don’t have to make a decision based on experience, but based on what other people have told you. If your parents taught you “If it’s too good to be true, then it probably is”, you won’t get easily scammed.

Finally, I got my teacher to sign up, and we were able to continue developing our company…

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