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A Simple Trick To Give Yourself Good Advice
You become your best advisor if you learn this simple trick
One of my guilty pleasures is watching trashy reality TV.
I’ll sit popcorn in hand and watch all the fake drama unfold like a long-lost, crumbled-up love letter.
It’s like a car crash you can’t look away from. And I don’t know why, but when I watch other people having problems, I feel high and mighty, like I’m a fortune teller with all the answers. For me, all the answers to their problems pop out like a red square on a green painting.
But it’s not just TV.
Ever noticed how it’s easier to untangle your friend’s love life than to figure out your own? Or how you can give your friend career advice, but for some strange reason, you can’t give yourself the same.
I guess it’s because it boils down to one thing: You can’t read your own label when you’re stuck in the jar. But there’s a way to uncork yourself and get out.
And it’s called third-party thinking. Here’s how to use it.
Pretend you’re on the TV (Who’s that overweight guy on TV? Oh no… it’s me!) There’s a secret camera that records everything you do. What would the camera show?