How To Be the Best Partner You Can Be

A roadmap to a better relationship—from an evidence-based couples therapist who has been helping people save their marriages for 28 years

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A multi-colored image of a house with 2 walls, and 7 floors labeled with the 9 components of the Sound Relationship House.
A multi-colored image of a house with 2 walls, and 7 floors labeled with the 9 components of the Sound Relationship House.
Infographic by The Gottman Institute/Drs. John and Julie Gottman

The Life-Changing Power of a Series of Questions

1. How well do you and your partner know each other?

2. Do you feel liked and appreciated? And do you express fondness and admiration toward your partner?

3. What’s your relationship like on a Tuesday afternoon?

4. Is there a raincloud hovering over your relationship?

5. Do you speak your truth with kindness during and after conflict?

6. Do you support one another in reaching for your dreams?

7. Are you planning a life of fun together?

A multi-colored image of a house with 2 walls, and 7 floors labeled with the 9 components of the Sound Relationship House.
A multi-colored image of a house with 2 walls, and 7 floors labeled with the 9 components of the Sound Relationship House.
Infographic by The Gottman Institute/Drs. John and Julie Gottman

8. Do you trust that your partner has your best interest at heart?

9. Are you willing to keep cherishing your partner in your lifelong journey?

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Idealistic couples therapist, educator, and writer. Free 5-day email course: Are You Arguing Too Much? Here’s how to fix it: https://tinyurl.com/yyxc7x5b

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