Managing Yourself: How to Calibrate Your Own Strengths and Weaknesses

Smart self-assessment plus clearly defined requests for feedback can prevent imposter syndrome—and being caught off-guard by hidden weaknesses.

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Everybody feels like an imposter sometimes

Get to brutal honesty with yourself

How would the people who know and like me best (family, significant other, close friends) describe me in three words?
- My answer: thoughtful, enthusiastic, driven
What three qualities do I possess that I am the proudest of?
- My answer: curious, reflective, optimistic
When I look back on something I did that was successful, what personal traits do I give credit to?
- My answer: vision, determination, humility
What are the top three most common pieces of positive feedback that I've received from my manager or peers?
- My answer: principled, fast learner, long-term thinker
Whenever my worst inner critic sits on my shoulder, what does she yell at me for?
- My answer: getting distracted, worrying too much about what others think, not voicing what I believe
If a magical fairy were to come and bestow on me three gifts I don't yet have, what would they be?
- My answer: bottomless well of confidence, clarity of thought, incredible persuasion
What are three things that trigger me? (A trigger is a situation that gets me more worked up than it should).
- My answer: sense of injustice, the idea that someone else thinks I'm incompetent, people with inflated egos
What are the top three most common pieces of feedback from my manager or peers on how I could be more effective?
- My answer: be more direct, take more risks, explain things simply
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