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The 3 Types of Intimacy & the Science on How to Tap Into the Deepest One
It’s not sex or feelings, and most people don’t experience it at all.
Something odd happened to me a few years ago, I met three different people named Damien in the same week.
As I telling a friend about each of these encounters, she kept getting them confused. So, I spontaneously came up with a nickname for each one which ended up being Robot Damien, Sensual Damien, and Empath Damien.
As we chuckled over the nicknames, I couldn’t stop wondering why my brain had chosen those specific words to describe each person. I had experienced a deep sense of intimacy in each of those connections, but they felt wildly different.
Eager to understand how I could recreate all three experiences, I applied my biomedical science training and dove into the research.
What I learned completely transformed the way I connect with people. I discovered that each of those interactions had activated a distinct neural pathway — and that I didn’t have to find these connections, I could recreate them at will.
Importantly, the science confirmed what I had intuitively sensed: one of those connections was significantly more powerful than the others, not just emotionally, but…
