Use Inbox Shadowing to Free Up 8 or More Hours a Week

How to Use a Virtual Assistant to Get (and Keep) Total Control of Your Email

Patrick Ewers
Jul 17, 2018 · 8 min read
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Most people don’t know this, but nearly every president since Kennedy has employed the use of a Shadower.

U.S. president John F. Kennedy was well-known for a unique and powerful skill: The ability to remember the names and details of almost every single person he’d ever met.

And although other leaders after him may have been charismatic, few possessed this uncanny skill. Once that precedent was set, however, there was an expectation to live up to. And so, short of Kennedy’s extraordinary memory, many world leaders now deploy a special individual called a “shadower.”

A shadower is someone who walks the crowd with the president at important events, whispering pertinent personal information in the leader’s ear about approaching attendees.

For example: A shadower might inform the president that a California senator’s 19-year-old daughter is attending Princeton this fall. With this information at hand, the president is able to deliver a highly-relevant, personalized interaction to the senator, thus forming a deeper, more meaningful connection.

Can you see how something like this might be valuable? Now, let’s apply this concept to the digital world. Realistically, you probably don’t need someone shadowing you are board meetings or fundraising events; but there is another way you can leverage this practice: Inbox shadowing.

What is Inbox Shadowing?

The problem with email is that it’s often a productivity trap. Most people manage their inbox reactively, operating on a “last in, first out” basis without giving any weight to the importance of individual emails.

And although sorting and responding to emails might feel productive, it probably isn’t the most productive use of your time. But it’s just one of those things that has to be done, right?

Yes: but not necessarily by you.

And that’s where inbox shadowing comes into play.

Put simply, inbox shadowing means empowering your assistant to manage your inbox as if they’re you. In other words, they become your digital “shadower,” making decisions about your inbox based on their abilities and the context and permissions you’ve provided.

More specifically, a well-trained inbox shadower will do three things.

1. Draft Responses to Emails They Know How to Handle

For example: If one of your board members asks for a 15-minute meeting next week, both you and your shadower know you’re going to say yes. So they can draft up a response accepting the request and, because your shadower would also have access to your calendar, they could even offer up some available time slots.

Then, at the end of the day, all you have to do is quickly review the draft they wrote and press “Send.”

2. Label “Please Handle” Emails

In these instances, they’ll label the email “Pls Handle” so you know it requires some form of action from you.

3. Label “FYI” Emails

For example: You may get an email from another team member letting you know the project you assigned them has been completed.

In these instances, your shadower will label the email “FYI” so you know all you have to do is give it a quick skim at the end of the day.

The Death of “Last In, First Out”

And now you no longer have to reactively review every single email that comes in with the “last in, first out” approach. Instead, your optimized email workflow will look something like this:

  1. Review and send drafts created by your shadower.
  2. Review and process all emails marked “Pls Handle.”
  3. As you find time, skim through all emails marked as “FYI.” Often, you only need to do this step once a day.

Ultimately, inbox shadowing enables a fundamental and positive change in your (once-tumultuous) relationship with your inbox. Let’s take a closer look at some of the benefits.

You Can Reduce Time Spent on Emails by Up to 80%

But as we’ve discovered here at Mindmaven, 60%-70% of emails don’t require your full attention or decision-making abilities. Therefore you can save between 50%-80% of your inbox management time by shifting the drafting responsibilities to someone you trust while you simply review and press “send.”

You might be wondering, “Well, why not have the shadower respond to the emails right away instead of drafting responses for me to send later in the day?”

Here at Mindmaven, we believe that being genuine is extremely important in relationship management; and in order to stay authentic, it needs to be you that actually sends the emails.

Outsourcing the sending of emails without your review is not only disingenuous, it can lead to mistakes, miscommunication and — in the worst-case scenario — distrust if someone discovers you aren’t answering your own emails.

Even though you still have to take the time to review the drafts before they’re sent, inbox shadowing can still save you 6–8 hours every single week.

You Can Free Your Mind from Distractions and Anxiety

Even with the successes some people have had with the Inbox Zero approach, many worry they’ll miss important information. But with inbox shadowing, that fear goes away because they know two things:

  1. Another set of (highly-trained) eyes are looking at emails ahead of you, and
  2. They’ve been instructed on best practices for anything urgent.

Having an inbox shadower who truly knows how to handle these urgent situations can even make or break a deal. Let me share a quick story to illustrate this:

The shadower for one of my clients, a prominent Silicon Valley venture capitalist, actually interrupted a meeting after a time-sensitive email came in.

Under normal circumstances, it would have taken my client 2–3 hours before they even saw the email, but the shadower’s quick decision allowed him to respond immediately and, as a result, win the deal.

Examples like this beautifully illustrate how an inbox shadower can eliminate email-related anxiety. You never have to waste time worried about missing vital information or losing opportunities because you know you have someone constantly watching your back.

You Can Better Focus on What Matters Most

But if you’re not one of the demi-gods of the startup world, your day-to-day workflow is probably heavily influenced by your inbox. The problem is, when your prioritization is driven by email, you’re stuck working on things that are urgent but not necessarily important. Let’s look at a quick example:

Imagine you’ve finally carved out time for the incredibly important task of defining your marketing objectives for the coming year.

You’re 15 minutes in when you get an email from a team member: They need some time-sensitive support for a new hire and you need to write a follow-up email.

Without an inbox shadower, you’d have to stop the important work you were doing to focus on the urgent task in your inbox. With an inbox shadower, you can rest easy and stay focused, knowing a draft will be created and all you’ll need to do is press “send.”

This not only makes you more effective, it enables your team to be more effective because they’ll get the answers and support they need as they need it, rather than when you can get around to it.

You Can Dramatically Increase Your Velocity

This isn’t necessarily because responding to the email requires a difficult decision; it’s just that there isn’t enough time in the day for them to get through all their emails while still moving the business forward.

But when you have a shadower who can “preload” your decision, you can just click “send” on simple emails. That way there’s no need to spend 30 minutes sorting through your inbox before getting to an email that only takes 5 seconds to act on.

When inboxes are processed more efficiently, this often not only increases the velocity of the CEO; it increases the velocity of the startup as a whole. After all: The velocity of a startup can never exceed that of its leadership.

You Can Enjoy Deeper, More Meaningful Relationships

Don’t get me wrong: I’m a fan of brevity. But there are situations where putting a bit more time and thought into a reply can go a long way towards deepening your relationships and making people like you. For example:

Imagine somebody sends you an email asking to reschedule a meeting because their child is in urgent care.

A busy executive without an inbox shadower would likely respond with a one-liner like, “No worries, my assistant will help you set up a new time.”

An inbox shadower, on the other hand, has the time to respond with something more thoughtful and empathetic, such as:

“I’m sorry to hear your son is sick. As a parent myself, I know there’s nothing scarier than a child who isn’t getting better. I’m glad you took the initiative to get him to urgent care. Please keep me updated.”

In a world of one-liner emails, a message as meaningful as that is going to make a strong, positive impression on the other person and dramatically deepen your relationship.

The Key to Successful Email Management and Inbox Shadowing

As long as you get yourself a properly trained inbox shadower, the benefits far outweigh the investment. Just keep in mind: Not every assistant has what it takes to exercise ownership over an inbox.

Most virtual assistants, or instance, won’t have what it takes to be an effective inbox shadower. You need someone you can have 100% confidence in, or you’ll spend more time cleaning up the emails they’re drafting than you would if you’d just written them yourself.

But trust me (and my clients): Once you find the right person and start experiencing the incredible ROI of inbox shadowing, you won’t have it any other way.

Better Humans

Better Humans is a collection of the world's most trustworthy writing on human potential and self improvement by coaches, academics, and aggressive self-experimenters. Articles are based on deep personal experience, science, and research. No fluff, book reports, or listicles.

Patrick Ewers

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Executive coach & founder of Mindmaven, a company that teaches entrepreneurs and leaders how to generate breakthrough opportunities from their network.

Better Humans

Better Humans is a collection of the world's most trustworthy writing on human potential and self improvement by coaches, academics, and aggressive self-experimenters. Articles are based on deep personal experience, science, and research. No fluff, book reports, or listicles.

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