I am in pain. I have been in pain, every day, all day, since I was a teen.
I have psoriatic arthritis. Or is it Ankylosing Spondylitis? The diagnosis keeps changing. In my youth, it was identified as juvenile rheumatoid arthritis. And before that, it was “growing pains.”
My current rheumatologist once described what I have as a “miserable, recalcitrant disease.” That sums it up nicely. While the diagnosis and treatment may have shifted over the years, the pain has remained. Sometimes better, sometimes worse, always present. It has been my “dark passenger” since I was 16 years old.
My daughter can often be found with piles of books around her. There’s always one within reach.
At just over a year old, she explores more than a dozen books per day, sometimes alone and sometimes with us, her parents.
So how did we do it? It wasn’t as difficult as you might think.
“The nurturing and one-on-one attention from parents during reading aloud encourages children to form a positive association with books and reading later in life.” — Reach Out and Read, Archives of Disease in Childhood, Reading Aloud to Children: The Evidence.
When I was growing up, people…
At the end of 2019, I took a long, hard look at my closet and my wallet. I had never considered myself as an impulsive shopper or fervent fast fashion consumer, but I was struggling to close my dresser drawers. I couldn’t squeeze another hanger into my tiny closet if I tried.
And despite the surplus, I was cycling through the same couple shirts and pants. …
David Allen’s influential productivity book, Getting Things Done, i.e. GTD, advances the concept of writing your to-do lists as Next Actions. You can do even better than that, though, and if you do, you’ll practically obliterate procrastination.
I won’t come close to doing the GTD book justice, but the general gist of the Next Action concept is that how you write an item on your to-do list matters.
If you write something vague, like “change car tires,” you will invite your future self to procrastinate.
The way procrastination works is that later in your day, you’ll come to the “change…
Most of us are becoming increasingly aware of how critical rest and time off are for our mental health, our overall wellbeing, and even our professional performance.
Many of us have come face-to-face with the negative consequences of not getting enough detachment, and we’re aware of the danger. Yet actually disconnecting and taking time off seems to be more and more difficult.
We just can’t shake the guilt that we associate with not constantly working. It’s been too deeply ingrained in our culture and our psyche.
My business partner John Fitch and I recently collaborated with Deloitte’s chief well-being officer…
In our society, “being positive” is seen as a strength. We admire people who’re upbeat, energetic, proactive, and creative. We want to be more like them because we believe this would grant us a life of success and fulfillment.
A positive outlook on life is assumed to be the supreme virtue. But is it always?
I can’t tell you how many times when I expressed personal or professional frustrations, certain friends told me that it’s “all in my head.” With that, they implied that if I only tried to see things in a more positive light, everything would shift. …
There was lots of buzz over the weekend about a new paper by Jeremy Bailenson of Stanford University’s Virtual Human Interaction Lab. In the paper, Bailenson proposes four causes that contribute to the peculiar exhaustion many of us experience in video conferencing:
Does your inner dialogue sound something like your most shit-talking nemesis?
You’re not alone. I personally relate to being berated by my own thoughts, and many of the clients with whom I work in a private practice psychotherapy setting also describe this experience.
Studies have shown that the majority of our thoughts are repetitive in nature. We also know from research that the more worried, ruminating, or self-blaming thoughts we have in general, the higher levels of anxiety and depression we can expect to entertain (see “The structure and consequence of repetitive thought”), although tolerating any level of depression or…
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