How To Deal With Anxiety For Jumping In A Relationship If You’ve Been Hurt Before (Advice Request #2)
In some people’s past relationships they experience major traumatic events. These specific experiences scar them for life and they completely refuse to get into another relationship because of the expectation of getting hurt again.
Love Yourself First
In order to get in a relationship with somebody, you have to be able to love yourself first. A lot of people in this world are truly lost and don’t get in touch let alone know their inner selves. The true meaning to love yourself is being able to accept yourself for who you are. Regardless of your insecurities and your imperfections you come to the realization that these are things you accept and are 100% happy with. When you love who you are, when you meet someone that you may like it doesn’t come from a place of need but from a place of want. You’ll know the difference when you realize that you don’t need this person in your life to make you happy but you would like them to be apart of it because it benefits your growth as a person. Coming from a place of need is completely different because your happiness solely depends on this other person being in your life. Once you’re able to love yourself, you give yourself the ability to love someone else.
Don’t Rush Into Anything
Some people often get lonely at times when they’re single, especially when they’re fresh out of a relationship. In order to fill that void of loneliness they have 2 mental pathways in which they choose. They either go back to their ex, or they rush into another relationship without the proper healing. Some people go back to their ex because it’s someone they’re more familiar with and they adapt a scarcity mindset that they won’t find anyone else out there that’s better for them. On the other hand, people jump into another relationship because they think this new person will cancel out their ex completely but they carry the same limiting beliefs from their old relationship into the new one. Both ways can work but only if you’re fully healed first. If ever you contemplate going back to your ex at least wait it out until you both are mentally, physically, and emotionally ready to encounter with each other on that level again. When you jump into another relationship with someone else at least build chemistry with that person first and get to know them fully before you jump into something and regret it.
Release Hurt And Limiting Beliefs From Past Relationship
In order to have a great relationship with that new person you want to be with you have to be able to let go of the hurt from your last relationship. Just because the person in your last relationship hurt you doesn’t mean that new person deserves to be labeled the same way. Unless this person portrays traits and toxicity behavior that doesn’t resonate with the boundaries that you set for yourself as a person then that’s where you draw the line altogether. I myself have been in the position where I carried all of my limiting beliefs from past relationships to my new ones and wondered why i got the same result each time. When your intentions are set on people treating you a certain way, you attract these same people to you. So, when you’re dealing with someone new have a fresh clean slate about them until they show otherwise. Instead of expecting the worse, have your intentions set on this person having all the qualities you look for in someone.
