Questioning Your Thoughts

Ja’Kari
Betterism
Published in
3 min readMay 1, 2019

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Every day the average person has an average of 12,000–60,000 thoughts a day. These thoughts can range from a different variety of things. Something bad can happen and people often think about the worst of the worst things that can potentially happen next. Or our day can be going perfect and we’ll repeatedly have the same positive thoughts over and over again which enlighten our day even more. Have you ever taken a moment though to question your thoughts? Primarily I personally believe this would be beneficial during negative circumstances.

Let’s say that you’re at work and your boss tells you that you’re doing a procedure incorrectly. In my experience, I’ve witnessed people get angry toward that situation and let this situation mess up their mood for the rest of the day. Some people even go on rants to other co-workers about the situation wherein essence it wasn’t even that big of a deal. When this happens the thoughts that people have overtake them in such a way that they voice their opinion in any way possible to persuade people why they weren’t in the wrong. Not only does that create negative energy for you, but it also creates negativity and unnecessary tension in your job. Instead of letting this dictate your attitude, stop and question your thoughts before you act. The famous saying “Think before you do/speak” is so powerful because it’s so true. Often people react off of impulse instead of taking a second to really think about their action beforehand.

The next time you’re upset about something, catch yourself and ask yourself “Is this situation even that serious to make me feel this upset”. Doing this will take a lot of stress and seriousness off of the thing you’re upset about. You should never allow someone to get you upset to the point where you lash out on any and everybody. You’ll have people that do these sort of things on purpose sometimes just to get a reaction out of you. That’s all they want really, A REACTION. If you don’t give them this reaction it will only affect them, not you.

Questioning your thoughts don’t have to only apply when you’re upset about something. There are many different instances where questioning your thoughts can be very beneficial. Especially when pondering about your belief system. Everybody in this world have their own beliefs about things that may be similar or even different from those people you know or don’t know. Someone may explain something to you that you don’t necessarily believe and they explain it in a way that you may agree on now that they explained it in a more comprehensive way. For example, I was having a conversation with one of my closest friends and I noticed that he says “I can’t” a lot. I explained to him that personally I don’t believe that anything in this world “can’t” be done. He agreed with me and I can tell that he was starting to question his believe system and the thoughts surrounded around why he thought he couldn’t do certain things.

Negative Thoughts

Negative thoughts comes very frequently in our mind as challenges that we have to take on in order to reach our full potential. These negative thoughts will take low blows at our confidence and point out the things that we think we lack. In essence, questioning these thoughts will clear these cloudy thoughts from forming. You may take a test and you’re not feeling too good about how you did. Instead of having the thought, “I failed”, substitute that thought and counter it with the question, “Why am I doubting myself?” When doing this you’ll give yourself a boost of confidence because with affirming that you failed you’re already turning your focus upon the outcome of failing. Why would you confirm this thought when you haven’t even got your results yet?

Questions To Ask Yourself

  1. Is this that serious ?
  2. Why am I letting this upset me ?
  3. How can I get over this?
  4. Am I going to allow this to dictate my mood for the rest of the day?
  5. Is this benefiting my life thinking this way?
  6. Is this really something I believe in?
  7. Is this true?

Thank You For Reading !

Sorry for the late post guys, last 2 weeks of school and i’ve been pretty busy. On that note, will bless you guys with more posts !

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Ja’Kari
Betterism

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