The Introvert and The Extrovert (Collaboration)

Contrary to popular belief of my students, I am actually an introvert. My brain works in a silently segmented reality, organizing thoughts and ideas behind the lines. I process several thousand things throughout the day, regardless of my physical expressions of said processes. Even my better half, Allison, who teaches students with learning disabilities, has trouble seeing that sometimes. She is most certainly an extrovert. But that is part of why we work so well together. We compliment each other.

The world needs that illuminated. Not my personal relationship status; rather, we need to see the differences in brain functionalities between individuals. We need to highlight each one’s strengths and weaknesses. Furthermore, we need to find out how to effectively collaborate using these functionalities. Only then will we reach a truer potential as a global society; one who is ready to tackle worldly issues from all angles.

Introverts and extroverts were meant to work together, contrary to linguistic diction. We were meant to see the world in its entirety and account for rounding the perspective. Otherwise, evolution wouldn’t have brought us to this point.

According to Jung, as reports, “…introverts gravitate towards their inner lives while extroverts are more interested in the outside world.”

That doesn’t mean the same thing as “all introverts are antisocial and all extroverts are great leaders.”

Set aside religious belief and political games. Look past habitual patterns and process manipulation. Brain functions account for everything we, as a species, have ever experienced. Our reality, though perceptions vary, all rely on our collective contributions to “the community.” We were meant to do it together, regardless of whether or not we focus on the individual or the world. Both perspectives came from the same evolutionary pinpoint. Both were chemically produced to better the world they share.

Nancy Ancowitz clarifies this for us in her interview (via with co-founders of In Good Company Workplaces, Amy Abrams and Adelaide Lancaster. Abrams says it best when asked about the collaboration between introverts and extroverts:

“We have focused on communication to make sure that we understand one another and are always sensitive to the fact that we experience the world differently based on how we are wired. We feel this is an advantage and always work to see the benefit of our differences.”

Kathy Caprino expands on this too, in her leadership article (via

“If introvert/extrovert relationships are to blossom, opposites need to understand the key dimension of their personality style (introversion/extroversion) and use this knowledge to strengthen themselves and their partnership.”

So keep that in mind next time you find yourself asking; “what the hell is wrong with this person?” There’s nothing really wrong with them. They simply experience consciousness differently than you do. Their problem-solving, soci-expressional behaviors are different. Their brain matter is of different chemistry than yours. Simply put: our molecules are not the same. That’s all.

Keep an open mind and try to see it from their perspective.