We’ve all been in a situation when our partner has told us in our past relationships. Let me be who I am.. or Can’t you accept me the way I am??
And to be honest, we too have sometimes felt, why can’t they just let me be the way I am… Why must I live according to someone else’s plans and imagination?
And we all know how harsh it feels when we go through this. But why do we need to go through this if we all know how evil of a feeling it could be??
Why can’t we accept someone or someone accept us the way we are??
Well, indeed, not because we all are psychopaths who love seeing other people cry for their rights and want everyone to just do what we wish… then what’s the matter??
It’s so simple that we never even realize it’s a problem.
Let me ask you a simple question… Before coming into the last relationship you’ve been in, did you ask yourself how do I see this? What are my needs and expectations, and in the same way, what are my partner’s needs and expectations from this relationship?
Let me be apparent: did you leave your imaginary love bubble and list what I’m entering into and who my partner really is? I’m not talking about the appearance. It’s the person, the core. Did you ask whether I have at least a respectable amount of data about the core of this person, how they operate or love to live?
What actually happens is when we create an imaginary bubble comprising of the world we would be in when with the person, we list up how our partner would be, and to be fool enough, we list things like Long Shiny Hairs Attractive Face, and everything on the outside and when we meet someone like that we know it’s them!! But… But
What actually matters is what the other person would feel about you and you about them.
Whether you are into a fulfilling relationship. Whether you know how your partner operates and you respect and acknowledge that what happens is when you enter a relationship, you do not just get a bunch of things you imagined. You have a whole person to be with, take care of, and handle to sustain your relationship.
But you listed such limited data of the person’s core that when you witness it… it’s your chance to acknowledge and accept it and let your partner feel the warmth of acceptance.
You’re confused and vulnerable about how to handle the situation. Most of the time, you imagine your land as if you were the king. She’s your princess and vice versa, and everything the king does there but as little about the princess that she’s there just to give you hugs and kisses and acknowledge your power and pray for you and same sort of activities and what happens is when you meet your princess.
You come face to face with the fact that they have a whole life just like you, and they have plans, imaginations, dreams, and perspectives, too. You’re just confused!! You are so confused you don’t know how to react, and all you feel is that even this person is not what you wanted in life…
“Yes, we don’t get what we want, not because destiny doesn’t allow us but because we really don’t know what we want.”
Only if you had space in your imaginary bubble for the princess’s life could you understand what you’re going through. Still, this concept feels utterly new because you never knew what you wanted in the first place, and secondly, you never had time to understand what life feels like from their perspective.
All problems have one solution — Sit down, relax with your partner, and fix the loopholes of understanding. Fix the loopholes of imagination. Become clear about what you want from your life and their life and your relationship, and the same goes for them, and then you’ll realize you’ve really got your princess, and this time, you know exactly how your princess is.
