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Father Fakes His Own Death to Escape His Family and Is Praised For Not Killing Them
How is the bar set so low for fathers and men in general?
This older couple on my street stops and waves enthusiastically at my husband every time they see him.
“There is the good father,” they say.
He earned this title in their eyes by taking our son for a walk in his stroller every day for two months, two summers ago.
I did the same stroller walk, in front of the same couple, for the entire year previously, but they didn’t even look at me when I passed by.
I’m not included in the “good parent” discussion.
Why?
Because, as a mother, I’m expected to do these things. I’m expected to take my son for a walk every day. I’m expected to be in charge of looking after him.
My husband, as a man, is not.
He gets accolades just for showing up. Showing up and not screwing things up.
Ryan Borgwardt shows how low the bar really is
Even when a father does screw up — and it can be a life-altering, serious screw up — he is still praised for not doing something worse.
