I Judged Women Who Used IVF With Donor Eggs. Now It’s My Only Shot at Having a Baby
And I realise how wrong I was
Selfish.
That’s what I thought about women who chose donor egg IVF.
I was a member of the “why don’t you just adopt” camp. And I certainly thought, “why don’t you learn how to be happy without kids” more times than I care to count.
But if my infertility has taught me anything, it’s to stop being so f**king judgemental.
Because I had no idea. Many people don’t.
People have no clue what it’s like after years of trying to conceive and rounds of IVF for your doctor to tell you that egg donation is your best-case scenario.
Sometimes — and certainly in my location where adoption takes around seven years — your only case scenario.
I’m seriously considering using an egg donor, and being the type A that I am, that means I’ve done a deep dive into how it works.
I’ve learned a lot. The biggest lesson being that whichever way I go, I was far too quick to judge women who choose this path.
I fell for the stigma of egg donation. I don’t want you to make the same mistake.
