Is Modern Dating Really the Problem?

Or is it how we are handling it?

Don’t hate the game: hate the players. Photo by Nik on Unsplash.

I have a hypothesis I haven’t been able to shake: that “modern dating” is only as bad as the actions and intentions of modern daters. I mean, it’s slim pickings, but that’s about the only problem there is. Except, nobody’s caught on to that.

Have you looked up the term “modern dating” recently? The information out there is all about how modern dating sucks, that it’s too hard, and that it’s a waste of time.

But dating is the best it’s ever been by a mile because we can choose to walk away, our bank accounts intact.

If only we could figure out when to walk away, and how to communicate it.

A few days ago a “trauma-informed healer” nano-influencer on my list was talking about her tedious experience using apps to date. And with her story, she caught my attention almost immediately.

Here’s what happened: she was asked out by a man on a dating app, who then didn’t speak to her for most of the week until the morning of their date. Flakey? Maybe.

Miffed at his apparent lack of interest, once she heard back from him she decided to cancel their date the same day, citing a difference of priorities and better suitors.