No, I Won’t Make You a Sandwich
Women are not here to make you comfortable.
At the beginning of my relationship with my boyfriend I told him never to ask me to make him a sandwich.
Not for the fact that I won't make him a sandwich, but because I will not conform to the past standards of being a home maker.
Growing up in a home where my mother serves my dad a plate of food while my dad sits and waits in his room watching TV expecting my mom to serve him on a tray, I told myself I would not do the same.
I asked my mother why she does this and her response, “Because your dad works all day long”.
My mother works more hours than my dad does, comes home, helps with the farm chores then is expected to cook, clean and make my dad comfortable because he “worked a long day”, as if she didn’t do the same as well.
This doesn’t sit right with me.
Don’t get me wrong. have no problem cooking, however, I will not be expected to be the only one cleaning the house and spending time in the kitchen.
Because I have created these boundaries early on in my relationship my boyfriend is more than willing to step in and help.
Keeping up with the daily housework is the exact same. We have our own roles with the upkeep of our home.
I will do the dishes if he cleans the bathroom. By setting boundaries in my relationship, I am setting our relationship up for success, where house chores are not solely dependent on me.
Since the start, I have been a feminist in regards to how everyone is expected to do their part in any aspect of life.
However, not all share the same thought process that I do.
In a society where women are demanding equal rights, many from past generations are upset.
A few months ago, my grandpa asked my mother if she did the laundry and made dinner yet. This did not sit well with me.
Granted, my grandpa is half blind. Nevertheless, he still treats any woman regardless of their age, like they owe something to him.
I immediately said no, and she doesn’t have to.
My mother told me that it was okay and not to make it a problem, however, that's not who I am. I will not sit back as other women are being told about their “duties”.
The conversation ended with my grandfather treating me like I was a disgrace to women everywhere.
I told him I was shocked my grandmother never left him. I may have gone overboard.
In conclusion, I am extremely grateful to have grown up in this day and age when women are standing up for their rights.
If we were all created equal regardless of who we identify as, then why is there such an uprising among people? I may never know the answer to that question.
All that needs to be said is, please just be decent human beings.
