We Need To Stop Teaching Women They Can and Should Fix Broken Men

It teaches women they are to blame for their own abuse

Kim Fedyk
Bitchy

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Photo by Denis Oliveira on Unsplash

Men don’t change unless they want to.

People don’t change unless they want to.

Yet women are constantly told by the media and society that if they love a man hard enough or forgive his faults enough times, they can change him. That the power of their love will be enough.

Not only is this utter and complete bullshit, it is also extremely damaging — to both women and men.

Sometimes this just ends in divorce — two people that are completely incompatible and probably should never have gotten into a relationship to start with.

But it can take a lot darker turn. It can lead to women staying in abusive situations because they want to “fix him” or they think they can just “love him more” and everything will be alright.

It can make women think their abuser hasn’t changed because they aren’t trying hard enough.

I know I thought that.

I stayed with my ex, in an emotionally abusive relationship, for half a decade because I was sure I could change him.

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Kim Fedyk
Bitchy

Published author, wife and mom. I blog about motherhood, life and my self-publishing journey