What Happened To Women Supporting Women?

Ladies beware you don’t succumb to the Queen Bee Syndrome

Ali Hall
Bitchy

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Apparently, I’m sexist for taking my husband’s surname.

I was accused of this by several women in response to my explorative and thoroughly researched piece about how LinkedIn’s verification process is riddled with sexism and gender bias.

Isn’t it wild that people are so quick to jump to conclusions? My attackers didn’t think about why I changed my surname. Instead, there was an illogical assumption that I’d betrayed feminism.

Choosing to take on our husband’s surname is not anti-feminist. What is anti-feminist is criticizing others for executing feminism in ways we wouldn’t. No one is the gatekeeper of feminism.

I can’t help but wonder, what makes some women so unsupportive toward other women?

Your surname is a product of the patriarchy

Something my attackers never considered is that, for most women, our surnames stem from our fathers. Yes, another man. The system of passing on surnames is deeply patriarchal.

So, if they want to criticize me for taking on my husband’s surname, they’d be truer to their cause by encouraging me to revert to my mother’s maiden name.

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Ali Hall
Bitchy

✍Well-being, feminism & personal growth. Childfree & owner of Life Without Children. Lover of trail running & dogs. Also at abnormallynormal.substack.com