Goals and emotions
An expectation(or a goal) is just your ego attaching to a future image.
The attachment becomes a form of motivation making you work towards achieving the image.
Everything that impedes the achievement of the image creates negative emotion. Everything that advances the achievement of the image creates positive emotion.
The biggest positive or negative emotions come when you finally achieve the image(positive) or realize that the image can’t be achieved(negative).
In both cases the attachment is gone and there is a moment (sometimes a lengthy one) of sadness, chaos and reorientation towards a different image/goal.
When a person is not oriented towards some goal, she usually experiences a large amount of anxiety, depression or lack of meaning in her life.
Evolution has created built-in motivation systems in our bodies in order to push us to stay alive, procreate and move society forward. Sex, food, children, social status, travel are some of them.
If you attach your future image to any of those systems it gains more momentum. The highs of positive emotion become higher and lows of negative emotion become lower.
You can be in a state of not having a goal and be ok with it. However, that requires a good amount of emotional stability and self-consciousness(which a lot of people lack).
You can see a part of this idea explained in more detail in this video.
This post is based on another twitter storm of mine.
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