What You Should Do When Someone Tells You “You Will Never Be a Writer”

Don’t get upset — instead, get better.

Joanna Henderson
Jan 19 · 4 min read
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any of us like writing. We didn’t necessarily want to be writers or journalists in our teens, and our first word as a baby wasn’t “typewriter.” Nevertheless, many of the world’s population associate themselves with creative arts, and writing is a popular form of artistic expression.

But we are used to people telling us we can’t write, or that we’ll never be writers, or that we should choose a more “prominent” (opportunistic, secure, financially-efficient, etc.) field. Because, you know, life is all about money and security — obviously, it’s not.

Here a kicker: nothing in our world is secure, and no one knows what may happen tomorrow. This is why, when someone tells you writing isn’t a sustainable career choice — remind them they can become jobless tomorrow, just like any one of us.

But what do you do when someone says that you will never be a writer? When they make a snobby comparison between you and William Shakespeare or Charles Dickens, and informs you there is no way you can become as famous as they are? How are you supposed to react when another person looks at you with a smirk and lets you know you aren’t good enough?

There are a few things to do — let’s review the list.

Here’s what you need to do to the person who made such a commentary towards you: nothing. You do absolutely nothing because no one deserves your emotions, especially negative ones. There are always people who judge, criticize and bully others, and they don’t deserve any attention whatsoever. Just smile at them, nod, say “of course,” and walk away. You may laugh in their face if you wish, so that not only do they feel confused but also embarrassed.

As for yourself, you need to let it go right away, without such comments affecting you mentally or emotionally. Mental health is crucial, and you can’t always function properly if you get hung up on someone’s meaningless comment or destructive criticism. We all need to take care of ourselves, and an excellent way to practice self-care is to block negative feelings and other people’s horrible emotions. It’s not your fault they are the way they are.

What you can do is to channel that encounter into inspiration. I recently wrote about channeling pain into writing — you can do the same thing with negativity. If you encounter someone rude, morally ugly or flat out pathetic, what you should do is turn that life experience into art.

Was someone rude to you at a store? Write an article about how to avoid toxic people in everyday life. Did one of your acquaintances ruin your mood? Write a piece and name it: “Why you should seek positive influences in your life.” Did someone tell you you will never become a writer? Turn to humor and come up with a satirical article: “5 things parents should teach kids to avoid them growing into assholes”.

The world is full of pompous individuals who think they are incredibly street-smart, and they mastered life. Sometimes they did. But if a person is a douche to others, one thing is clear: they have no clue how the world works. It doesn’t matter how successful they are, because they live their lives as a “small” person with a poor soul and an ugly personality. You should feel bad and compassionate towards individuals like that.

You should do numerous practical things when someone criticized your writing job — or career if you’re at that stage. Here are a few constructive ideas:

  • Turn that encounter into 5 to 10 pieces of content or other writing materials.
  • Use it as an inspiration to write more and improve your skills.
  • Use it as a reason to learn something new and progress in your writing job or career.
  • Apply the “let it go” and “learning” philosophy to other aspects of your life and use them to do other things better and greater.
  • Use the unpleasant encounter to build a character and become stronger.

You can come up with other revelations inspired by this experience. As long as it brings you something positive, it’s all that matters.

Conclusion

You know who you are; others may not. The best thing you can do for yourself is let go and transform the anger you may be feeling into inspiration. People will always talk behind your back, and sometimes they may say horrible things to your face. Just ignore them and keep going.

Mental health is a critical factor in our lives, and you need to ensure yours is in good standing. Don’t let anyone discourage and put you down. You owe it to yourself to withstand mental attacks on your personality and take good care of your emotional health.

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Joanna Henderson

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Canadian. Mental health activist. Banker and financier who drinks too much coffee. Pursuing happiness and sharing my thoughts with others.

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