3 Steps to Stand Tall in Your Uniqueness
There’s no point in fighting it anymore. You’re different, I’m different, the bus driver, the dude in your marketing department, and don’t forget your neighbour that really, really loves Christmas lights…and Captain Morgan! (haha)
So what can we do to embrace our uniqueness?
I suggest to first, take a deep breath and be proud because it’s part of who you are. And we all know we can’t change who we are, right? So, allow your uniqueness to take centre stage so the real you — your true essence — can steal the show…for life.
Here are three steps to help you do that:
1. SAY YES!
As a blind speaker who also happens to be a lesbian, in the beginning I was really worried what people would think of me, and I would either hesitate to speak or not take the engagement at all. I learned that no matter what, I had to say yes. I wasn’t going to get experience sitting at home or browsing the internet. Even if I bombed, it was something I could learn from.
So, I had to say yes. And so do you.
With that yes will come a little self love and pride, and with that will come confidence. I promise! Just say YES! And you too will get a standing ovation for something amazing you have always wanted to do.
2. SAY NO!
Saying yes has many benefits in our lives, but make no mistake, saying NO is just as important. It’s imperative to know — for you — when it makes sense to say no. Perhaps when a friend is doing everything for you because she just wants to help. Or, when you are overwhelmed by work projects or when your time is being booked for you, without your consult. (This one’s a fine line if you’ve dedicated your spouse as your Social Advisor!)
Saying “no” can be extremely liberating and empowering. No does not have to be mean or negative, it can simply just be “I’m sorry, I don’t have time for that right now, perhaps another time.” or “No thanks, I am fine. I can do it.” or “No, unfortunately that doesn’t work. Thank you for the offer.” And remember, there’s always simply “No thank you.” Which is to the point and said kindly, is short and sweet.
Try one of these next time you want to say no and see how you feel.
3. LET GO!
This might be the most important of the three steps. Whatever you feel has made you different — no matter what makes you “unique” — it’s time to come to terms with it, and accept that this is who you are. Let go of the how, what, when, why, or who for where you are right now. And if you think I can say that lightly, you are very wrong. It took me a long time to get where I am today, so I know this step is not easy. But it’s crucial to living a healthy, happy life!
After losing my eyesight, I blamed many a doctor for not catching it sooner. And it’s true, I may not be where I am today had it been caught, but if I keep holding on to that thought, where will it get me? I’ll still be blind, I’ll still have to think that everyday, and I’ll still be angry. And I really don’t want that for me, my life, or anyone in it.
Ask yourself what you are holding on to. Who are you blaming? Who are you not forgiving? A doctor? A friend or past loved one? Then ask yourself if it’s worth the pain and anxiety to hang on to it anymore. They don’t have to know that you let it go. To be honest, they probably don’t even know what it’s truly done to you and they probably don’t care, so why should you? Wouldn’t it do you a world of good to LET…IT…GO?
If you implement these three steps in to your life today, you will begin to notice SO many positive changes.
People will start to ask you what you’ve been doing lately because you just look amazing standing so tall and incredible centre stage in your beautiful life!
Let’s talk about it.
Tell me in the comments below what positive changes you’ve made or would like to make to stand a little taller in your life. Perhaps something you’ve done can truly inspire another to do the same.
More at tamaraspeaks.com
